How long before your cravings eased up? I’m on day #13 and I still think about buying a bottle every day and I even dream that I buy some and spend the day drinking on the beach…what the hell? Getting sober is supposed to be a positive change in our life. It shouldn’t be torture but it is.
It actually is torture in the being but the great thing about is the torture eventually fades and gets better. While not being sober is a constant feeling of torture that never gets better. I know it’s hell right now but you gotta keep pushing and improving! You did a good step by reaching out on here!
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Ok! PREEAACCHHHHH! 
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It’s still early days for you my friend.
You haven’t even done two weeks yet.
It takes 20 odd days to form a habit. You have to unform one and form another.
It’s going to take time.
For me it was about 6 months before I actually stopped real craving every day.
Even now. 20 months later I still get thoughts of drinking, but these days it tends to be more, " oh, remember when you used to drink?".
The way you are talking sounds to me like you are resenting giving up.
I made my peace very early with the fact that I can’t drink and the reasons why.
I’ve watched other people fight this over and over and keep relapsing.
I suggest you sit back and enjoy the ride. Learn from it. You will learn so much about yourself if you just listen.
And listening to people on here.
What’s worked for them.
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Have a read of this and see if you can get anything from it.
Going with the Flow
Go with the flow.
Let go of fear and your need to control. Relinquish anxiety. Let it slip away, as you dive into the river of the present moment, the river of your life, your place in the universe.
Stop trying to force the direction. Try not to swim against the current, unless it is necessary for your survival. If you’ve been clinging to a branch at the riverside, let go.
Let yourself move forward. Let yourself be moved forward.
Avoid the rapids when possible. If you can’t, stay relaxed. Staying relaxed can take you safely through fierce currents. If you go under for a moment, allow yourself to surface naturally. You will.
Appreciate the beauty of the scenery, as it is. See things with freshness, with newness. You shall never pass by today’s scenery again!
Don’t think too hard about things. The flow is meant to be experienced. Within it, care for yourself. You are part of the flow, an important part. Work with the flow. Work within the flow. Thrashing about isn’t necessary. Let the flow help you care for yourself. Let it help you set boundaries, make decisions, and get you where you need to be when it is time.
You can trust the flow, and your part in it.
Today, I will go with the flow.
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