I am struggling today with not being able to speak with my partner about parts of my addiction. To be honest their are things I haven’t been able to speak to my psychologist about, although I do intend to bring them in my next visit.
however my wife is the most important person in the world, and I have promised to be open with her … I just don’t see how I can speak about everything. Not speaking about it feels like lying and it is all I can think about.
A guilty conscience needs no accuser.
That’s a tough position to be in. I’m an advocate for honesty and transparency in any relationship.
I hope you can feel safe enough to speak with your therapist about this, and identify ways you can bring it up with her. This is an addiction like any else and should be treated with the same level of empathy and understanding.
Which also means you will want/need your wife’s support while you learn how to live soberly.
We’re here for you.
Rooting you on!
I ended up being up my feara to her without going into full details and it feels like a good middle ground. She is understanding that I am essentially catostrophising but I also said I will be speaking to my therapist about it.
thank you for responding. I’ll probably keep checking in here.
That’s great news!
Absolutely stay with us. We are stronger together.