Damn it I relapsed.
Although I had a great time on the booze.
I slipped!
Quite down on myself. I didn’t stick to my plan.
Can anyone share advice or experiences to help me not got through this again please
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Have you tried AA meetings? And remember - those people know how to stay sober and you don’t. AA gives you a proven plan that has helped millions of people to sobriety. Nothing else has touched and changed the lives of that many alcoholics and addicts. Nothing.
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how to stop drinking and stay stopped?
have you tried AA meetings?
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its hard when we relapse but please do not be down on yourself!
Advice and tips are the same – New here please help - #2 by JazzyS
I would suggest putting your plan in writing here so you can visualize it. Also that helps for accountability purposes. A meeting (online or in person) for a support group or AA is what may be needed for today to get you started.
Have you thrown out all your drinks at home? Do not go out with friends or to places where drinking is offered… this is not a life sentence but is necessary in early sobriety till you get your sober legs strengthened.
Make that commitment and work on keeping it - you are not alone! It will not be easy and that is why you need distractions and support. Make notes for yourself of why you are committing and the horrors of what living with alcohol have done for you physically, mentally and financially. Read these when you start craving
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Im sorry to hear u relapsed.
I think its important to remember the negatives of drinking tho. All the consequences that occur from picking up that 1 drink. Whenever i get a craving, i “play the tape to the end”. Meaning i focus on all the shit that comes with drinking and using drugs. It helps me to remember what really happens when i drink or use.
You say you had a great time drinking. But did you really? A big part of alcoholism is the fact that our addict mind will lie to us. It will try to convince us that we had a good timez that we can manage drinking a few, that things will be different this time. Its all a lie. Remember how u feel now the next time u have the urge to drink. That has always helped me in the past.
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What is your plan you are referring to?
Did you really have a great time on the booze? Imo, while you still think alcohol has anything positive to provide, you will slip in the future. Only when you accept alcohol is a false friend, it promises things like sociality, confidence, fun, but in the end, it takes them, will you ever be able to remove it from your life.
Lots of people suggesting AA. In the first step of AA for me, my sponsor made me write the history of my drinking, all the times I screwed up because of alcohol. Then she made me write how I want to live, and how alcohol makes me do the opposite of that. Just to really hammer home how much alcohol doesn’t deserve a place in my life.
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As someone who has learned the hard way time and time again, there is a way for you. I highly recommend meetings. I rejected the idea because I only had AA experience and it honestly just wasn’t comfy for me. Nothing wrong with that program. It works for a lot of people. There are so many types of recovery programs. AA, SMART, Recovery Dharma (my personal choice). I will say that committing to a sober routine bit by bit is huge as well. Some check in twice some once a day. No pressure either way, just an idea. Journaling, gratitude lists, etc. The tools are endless. You just have to want this FOR YOU. Not just the external elements (family, job, money, etc.) While yes they will help motivate your sobriety, you have to want to. Just my two cents 
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I relapsed, too! You’re not alone. Nothing we can do about yesterday. Just have to learn from it and take on this day.
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AA meetings will help if you put in the work .relapse happens i havnt yet because i have a good foundation and sober network round me and had the desire and made the effort stayed away from drinking places wish you well
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How are you doing today?