I know it is not recommended but i have 99 days and am kinda dating someone in the program that has 9 months. I get good and bad support for this. Any views?
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When we talked about it in my program there was always a big argument about this. Every (substance abuse)counselor says don’t make any life changing decisions within the first 12 months because you are still trying to figure out who you really are as a sober person if u know what I mean. On the other hand we should be allowed to do whatever we want… it just seems risky to me because I know I am not the same person sober and I wouldn’t want to grow apart from someone because i have changed so much or have this other person go right back to their old ways… it’s a tough one for sure but love is love is love I suppose so do what feels right in your heart
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I am dating someone who has 5 years in the program. I am on day 5, so by no means in a position to offer correct advice. I do know that with his experience, it is a good support for me. I also know that we are at 2 different places in our journey and it has to be kept separate to an extent. I would say early on it can be tricky. Know whether this person is secure in the self and their sobriety and also where you are at mentally. Take it very slow!!! It has worked for others, it all depends on whether you can make it work for you
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I met my husband in AA, my grandparents met there, and so did my aunt and uncle. Most important thing I think is that each person has done their steps and always keep sobriety first before anything else.
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