So I told myself I wasn’t going to drink anymore because of what happened last time and it happened again… not as bad as the time before but I hurt the same person again… and this time, she told me this is my last shot to get sober otherwise I lose her… I can live without the alcohol but I can’t live without her… it’s not worth it. So here’s to day 1 again… Taking it day by day and trying not to be so hard on myself…
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Have you tried any recovery programs they might help wish you well
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When I finally quit drinking, when I walked away from it for good…i quit quantifing drinking. 1 equaled disaster.
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Make the changes Joe and you must do it for yourself first and foremost because you want to. I know it’s hard been mate I have there done that. Actions speak louder than words. It’s not worth it in the end is it. 
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Ahhh my friend. You err in your thinking.
You can live without either your booze or your gf. You just don’t think you can. Rrgardless, you should do this for yourself.
You must de-identify from both so that you can start to recover your authentic, true self. Start with AA and 12 step program as you can’t do this on your own.
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I’m actually going to my first AA meeting tonight, thank you for that advice my friend
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Yes, I know I can live without either or and I do want this for myself… I’m tired of being that version of myself when I drink and I know it’s not me… it’s just the alcohol takes over and I become this version I don’t recognize… yes, tonight I’m going to an AA meeting for the first time and going to start there, thank you for your advice my friend
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Yes I know, I’m doing this for me… trust me. But yes,I agree… actions speak louder than words, definitely agree. Thank you for your kind words my friend
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I think once I start it’s just hard to stop and I tell myself I’m fine then I end up not remembering the rest of the night and little things I do or if I hurt someone or said something hurtful and I don’t wanna do that anymore because that’s not me… so def agree one drink can start it all…
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Exactly. You can do it. Try to get a meeting everyday and check in here. I really need to do it this time. With God , and changing my habits one day at a time .
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I’m not too far in myself. This time seems different to me as I have tried before also. I have gotten an addiction therapist. Check with your insurance company. I’d like to say, don’t be hard on yourself since everyone else is so hard on you. Nope… be hard on yourself! Everytime you feel like getting a drink, take a beat, re-read your post. It’s not worth it! I think if I keep up my ways my husband WILL leave me. That would absolutely break me! We are here to support you but the hard work is yours. You own your struggles, but, here’s the good news… your successes are yours as well!
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Same for me. Day 1
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Welcome here! Day 1 is a start, let us both stay sober for another day. Sobriety is a spectacular place to live life to the fullest.
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