Day 1. No alcohol. How do you stay motivated when 75% of me doesn’t want to 
. I know I need to my priorities are all over.
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Alcohol mastery on YouTube helped me big time in my first days. He has a lot of videos that are really helpful. I had to ‘grow into sobriety’ and am still learning, at the moment mostly on this forum. It will get easier!
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Thank you for your reply will check out the vids when the kids in bed!
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For me it was remembering the negative things about drunk me. How I acted, how I felt and the crappy things I did while drunk. I remembered why i wanted and needed to stop. And I chatted with people closest to me about becoming sober and hearing how happy they are about it made it seem even more worth it. Best of luck! You can absoloutely do this !
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I wrote a list of what I will gain from not drinking and how I want to live my life…I keep it on my phone and in the early days read it a lot…
Wake up every day guilt and regret free and feeling good
No hangovers ever!!
Treating my husband with respect and no drunk fighting
Self respect gets a major boost
No more internal conflict about drinking and if/how can I cut down or stop
Restful restorative uninterrupted sleep!!!
Major pride in myself and all that I can accomplish
A sense of peace and calm every day…not anxious stomach and brain
No more embarrassment and shame because of my behavior
Forgiving myself for past mistakes and terrible judgement
No wondering what I did or how I hurt husband or others while drunk
No treating people I love, including myself, poorly while drunk
No drunk driving and possibly hurting self or others or jail
No upset stomach from drinking
No anxiety and near constant agitation when hungover
No dark suicidal thoughts
No shame around neighbors if I was loud and yelling or loud music
No blackouts ever
No overwhelming shame at my behavior
No oversharing with strangers while drunk or making plans I will need to cancel
Not having to check my phone in the middle of the night to delete social media posts - no drunk texting/emails/posts/calls
Not be bloated and puffy and look haggard
Clear skin and eyes
Be present and not hungover with family and friends
Be a good example for my grandson
Major pride in myself and a huge boost in self esteem
No hangovers ever again
No more excuses or lies
Peace of mind - a true sense of peace with myself and life
Pride in myself
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Love your list Sassyrocks 
. I can totally identify with all of those. Another gain I have is not constantly stinking of booze the next day at work.
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Great list. I totally identify.
Wow thankyou all! Gonna start a journal I think to project everything!
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I am one of those ones that needed something like AA (in my case,AA). I coild do all the self-psychoanalyzing I wanted, all the pep talking, all the reflection. Nothing kept me going past a month or two.
It’s not AA, per se, but the fellowship and direction (which is what I get out of AA). I don’t think there’s one-ass way. I also know that I was the last person I should have been listening to🤣 I didn’t know what the hell to do.
Keep at it homie.
I think it’s a superb start to seek out some direction from those with stable, long term sobriety – wherever you can find them! – and better still if you can meet up with them in person, and better better cheddar still if you keep honest with them all of the time.
When I think of drinking, I ask myself what is to be gained. The cons far outnumber any pros. In fact, I never come across a good excuse to drink.
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Does that work for you, long haul?
It has. I’m 138 days sober. I make sure to keep myself busy. I go to the gym and keep my mind occupied with online classes.
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First few days and weeks are the toughest but it gets so much better. I’m at day 50 and I feel better about myself. I’ve lost weight and I love not waking up on Sundays with a hangover. Just stay focused through the first few weeks the journey is well worth it
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Those are exactly the reasons to quit. I messed up and drank yesterday after 81 days and I absolutely HATE myself today!
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This is a really good idea. I’m almost 3 days into my sober journey and I think it could do me some good. Thank you for the idea!
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Right on! ODAAT+
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