Has anybody lost everything due to their addiction but managed to get it all back?
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More times than I can remember. In my early days it would take a six month binge or longer to lose everything but as I got older it took a matter of weeks to lose my apartment, belongings, relationships, job, sometimes my freedom and I usually ended up homeless, in the hospital, or institution. At 408 days of sobriety I accept the fact that that’s never going to change if I go back to drinking or using. I promise if you really dedicate to sobriety and put that before everything you’ll get everything back and more. But more importantly than the material things you will get back peace of mind and contentment. All you have to do is the best you can for today and make it through today sober.
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@Moll Life in recovery can be more amazing than you can ever imagine, if you are asking whether life is better after drugs, the answer, without doubt or question of any kind, is yes. It’s way better, words cannot describe. You might not get rich, but you’ll get HAPPY which is what you REALLY want deep down more than material stuff.
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Yes. A big part of getting sober is living in the real world (instead of the fantasy world of my addiction), and by living in the real world I’m getting real results. I never had real results in my addiction. I never had real, meaningful, enduring things. I do have those things now.
In my addiction I could never imagine that. It’s amazing how things have turned around.
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I have nothing, no friends, no family, my love has had enough of me an fucked off, theres other things going on too, i jus want a bottle so it doesnt feel as intense, but i will just revert back to what put me here in the first place
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Lost my wife my house my 3 companies my savings , went to AA and almost 39 years later still sober had a landscaping company for over 35 years retired now live in a 4 bedroom house no mortgage travel the world money in the bank married again now 31 years to the lovely sheila have two sons men now they dont drink or smoke have a granddaughter now doc in hospital said i was a no hoper think he was wrong meetings made it easier for me maybe try one wish you well
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Welcome Moll, glad you are here. This is a great place to meet fun and interesting people who have and are still having the same struggles as you. YOU ARE NOT ALONE HERE!! Stick around, read the stories, post how you are doing. Check in as often as possible.
I am certain that picking up the bottle again will not get you anything you want in life. For today, say no to alcohol. Go through the withdrawals that we all did. Drink lots of water. Have snacks to distract you. Beware, some people need medical help to get through the early days of sobriety.
Again, very glad you checked in here today!
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Make it to a meeting, get yourself right do what you can so you’re not so focused on what/who you’ve lost. Everyone/everything will come around in due time or their own timeline. Most important to get yourself right with you primarily physically, mentally, and spiritually.
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Awesome success story mate! Inspirational . Yea meetings have a power Im really happy I found my meeting with people I trust
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This thing with hospital and institution hits home. I never went to jail even though I had legal problems. But many times hospitalization because of drugs and other institutions on top of that, it became already normal to me. But I still tried using responsibly without getting into hospital again. Every time I failed. It was pure madness. Literally insane to try it after hurting myself and others again and again. Im glad you got out of that cycle I feel Im also out too although Im still early 2 months sober now but no cravings at all
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Hey, let me tell you one thing — being sober is worth it. It’s worth taking your life into your own hands. Be kind to yourself, and remember: the first few days are the hardest.
There were moments when I had really self-destructive thoughts, and I asked myself: what could be more self-destructive than sitting sober with my own thoughts? And then I just did exactly that — I sat with them.
Keep going! It’s amazing that you wrote here — and the people in this space want you to succeed!
One day at a time.
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Yes it’s absolutely crazy I don’t know how many times I would be too sick to even go to medical detox so they kept me at the hospital to withdraw off alcohol or opiates and I would literally leave the hospital and stop to get a fifth of vodka or drugs on the way home even after just spending 5 to 10 days hospitalized swearing I’ll never do it ever again. I remember one time waking up with tubes down my throat and a bunch of other stuff going on because my organs were shutting down and My main concern was figuring out where my wallet was Because I knew I still had money. That’s what I wrote on the piece of paper when my parents handed it to me and told me not to talk. Where is my wallet? I didn’t care about anybody else. It really is Cunning baffling and powerful. I have to be reminded on a daily basis that I’m powerless and I will drink and I will drug again unless I work at my recovery every single day.
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how long have u managed
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If you mean sobriety time I have 408 days. It comes down to a lot but basically not forgetting where that drug and alcohol takes me every single time. It’s never going to change I’m never going to beat the game and Figure out how to successfully use or drink. And it’s not the end of the world I have a really good life right now and I get a natural highs from riding my bike and exercising, going to meetings, taking pride in my job and lots of different things. Sobriety and long-term sobriety is definitely possible if you work hard
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Have you considered treatment? It might be good to be in that kind of environment to help you withdraw and get back on your feet and learn some tools to stay sober and then when you get out you can actively get involved with a program like Alcoholics Anonymous and be around people that are recovering and doing the right thing every day. This is just a suggestion but I think this would be good. But this is just my opinion. I know for me I tried to do it on my own 1000 times and it usually never worked. But the main thing is get through 24 hours of not drinking and make some Better choices. Regardless of where you live there is help everywhere. You also have the option to go to the hospital and tell them you’re struggling I’ve never gone to the hospital and asked for help and been turned away. Make some calls and see what programs are around. I promise you your life can get better and you will get everything back and more especially the things that mean the most to you like family and love ones
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i cant really afford rehab i was having a look online before
You don’t have to go to the fanciest one in the world like some Malibu place in California you see on TV. There should be programs that help you get into rehab even if you don’t have insurance or the money. That’s another reason going to the hospital would be helpful because you can be honest with them and tell them that you want to quit drinking but you don’t know how to do it on your own. There is so much help out there especially if you’re in the United States. I know things seem scary right now or impossible but you have options. Just do what you can for today and try to attempt to get help and make calls. I’ve only gone to rehabs in Florida, Arizona, and Kentucky but I’m quite positive there is programs all over the United States to help you get into somewhere to detox and do residential program even without insurance or money. You just have to be willing and be honest
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i am in england
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My apologies. I truly do want to help because I know what it’s like to be in your position I didn’t mean to assume you were in the United States. I’ll see if there’s anybody I can reach out to on here that might know about rehab/detox in England. I also have a friend that I work with that is from there. Regardless just keep reaching out on here and stay positive and do what you can for today. And also I just want to say it’s really awesome that you’re reaching out on here and being honest about your situation. That’s a good first step admitting that this is not working anymore
thank you so much it means alot
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