Your experience is not unusual. I had a terrible experience with AA. But then many people find them invaluable. I can really recommend The Unexpected Joy of Being Sober by Catherine Gray. The audio book got me through my toughest days. Still does.
The thing I have learnt is that there is no single perfect way to keep sober. There’s something cathartic about this space as well. Keep in touch with us all. X
Yea when I went to meetings it was a few years ago and we lived on the north side of our town. I went to the closest meeting and was told I shouldn’t be there because I was a white woman. I was told I should find a ladies group and go to that instead. I went a few more times but never felt welcome. So I just stopped going.
My experience was similar. After attending several I shared that I was a social worker. Some of the group told me that their lives had been ruined by social workers, had their children removed etc.
I didn’t know what to say. I continued to go but it was made pretty clear that I was persona non grata. But I know that so many people find sobriety and serenity in the organisation.
I share a similar experience to yours. I’ve tried to quit time and time again but I downloaded this app, as I was feeling more “serious” this time and stumbled upon this group of people. I come back to read the threads multiple times per day and I never had this sort of support system before. I feel like this time could be different…for both of us. Keep strong.
Hey Jen and welcome to talking sober! Im Emilie it’s great to meet you! A lot of our stories are similar to yours-started drinking at a young age. I’ve been sober for 15 months now. I gave up drinking at the age of 28 when my doctor told me I had liver cirrhosis due to abusing acetaminophen, adderall and heavy heavy continuous drinking. It was pretty scary. I’m glad you’re here with us. As far as boredom goes, I felt the same way in the beginning but I can honestly say now I am never ever ever bored. Go to your bookstore and browse the shelves-pick up a few books that look interesting to you. Sign up for weekly blog emails. Make homemade face masks. I started a dog walking business with my dad called dad and daughters when I got sober just in the local neighborhood. It brought my dad and I closer and put some extra cash in my pocket I put all the money I was spending into drinking and did a evo turbo swap to my car. I made it fast & began racing it on the track…I get my high from that now. the world is yours when your sober. I’m excited for you!
Thank you for your comment. I was just coming here because I feel sad in a weird way. Like obviously my mind is messed up cause I’m sitting here thinking how others are probably having their Friday drink and being jealous knowing I can’t and shouldn’t drink because I don’t have a stopping point.
I was feeling sad too, like breaking up with a bf only it’s alcohol. And I said the same thing the other day, not being able to stop. Keep that in mind and how crappy you feel waking up the next day. It helps me…
Keep at it Jen. Have a cold shower if it helps (you’d be surprised). You’ll need some new routines to replace your old ones. It will get better with time, I promise.
Lots of people check in here and this is a nice place to see how everyone’s doing:
Stick with it and don’t give up love. You’re a good person and you deserve sobriety