Hi Everyone-
New to this online forum. I’m finally trying to quit drinking. I’m on day 2 this go around.
I have tried a couple times- typically I’ll get to a month and then backslide. I know i don’t have a unique situation: I socially drink and sometimes can only have 1-2 drinks, but I also often drink a bottle of wine a day, at parties I can drink to the point where things get hazy because we’re ‘having fun’, rare black outs do happen. I have gotten in fights with family and friends but it’s only once every couple of years, boyfriends have told me from time to time that it’s worrisome as have friends (even though they party with me).
Recently I was confronted by my girlfriends- most were mostly supportive, but concerned. None of which have really followed up, I feel like the elephant in the room and a bit abandoned. One friend (who IS sober) was aggressive and patronizing- giving me the ol ‘tough love’ but then it turned into: ‘you are a disaster, you remind me of my mother, you remind me of myself, you don’t want to hang out with me because I don’t drink’ (she also thought it was appropriate to have this conversation in a car, while her boyfriend was driving). I found all of this really out of line. it made me feel unsafe and NOT want to turn to her or talk to her or even see her. We haven’t seen eachother in four months.
I’m turning 39 in a month, and just want to live healthier and be more clear headed. I got very emotional last night and called my sister to tell her how I was feeling and it really helped…but I feel hesitant to go to AA.
I’m trying to do this on my own, but I do feel very isolated and alone and don’t feel like I can talk about anything with my close friends anymore without judgement. I started taking naltrexone again (tried once over the holidays which went ok- but I could drink through it). now, I typically take it in the morning, but targeted on days that I expect I may drink or be in a social situation where there is drinking, which helps…but sometimes I just say ‘screw it’ and continue drinking through it.
I’ve found myself avoiding people and situations recently where I may feel triggered- but it really bums me out because I’m a very social person (personally and professionally). I have a very successful career and can be present for loved ones- but clearly if I’m here, I think I have a problem.
Not even sure if I have a question here- just lonely and a little sad maybe…looking for a little boost.
Any advice?
Many thanks