My grandfathers, my dad, uncles & cousins are all alcoholics. I was far superior because i could control my intake.
Day 3 has it’s challenges. Panic attacks, anxiety, depression - all things I’ve been reading about so not surprised. I don’t have an assumed schedule when these will fade.
My dad was sober for many years, My guess was 30+. When my mom passed away a number of years ago he started up again. He would call when drunk, i thought he was owed this due to the current situation - this is a seperate issue. I called my dad on day 1 of sobriety and told him what was going on. He didn’t say much other than if i needed help I should ask. Here’s the curve… last night he called and said, “don’t worry about drinking, if it happens it’s no big deal. It’s not like you have to stop forever. Maybe make a goal of a couple years, 10 years…whatever.” i thanked him for the call and it’s been on my mind all damn day. My dad is 71, I’m 51 - staying sober is my goal…not an arbitrary date I can start up again.
Sorry for the ramblings, just weighing heavy on me.
It’s weird isn’t it. My family is littered with the lost lives and unfulfilled potentials of many uncles and aunts ties and grandparents, as well as my husband’s family. (Probably most families) I also felt far superior than other how were obviously glued to the bottle for whatever choice. I actually think I went harder at because of the constant begging and pressure my mum used to put on us all not to do it. Made me soo angry,
We do make allowances for different situations -such as your mum passing but how strong is alcohol ingrained into every aspect of.our lives. Now that’s not fair… it is good to ask for help when we need it. Staying sober is.my goal too
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not an arbitrary date I can start up again.
Also how I feel but I am now justgoti g to “sit” with each moment, the last time I thought I can drink if I want to -i had a spectacular fall from a lofty height. I have decided not to set goals, each day is my goal and my memory is all ready filled with less than ideal choices. Good luck to you @Rob68