Hi im a 21M This is my first post on here and I really hope I’m doing this right… Im going to therapy for a few months now, however I feel like I need a group.
I’ve been addicted to P*rn since I was 11 at least. I have ADHD and I’ve actively been working on quitting for a couple months. Ive tried blockers but there way easy for me to bypass, im a Christian and ive talked to the elders so my mind is clear from guilt of keeping it a secret from them. and the longest ive went is 12 days, and in that time i was feeling the withdrawals, i had my first ever nocturnal emission and i felt like it was good progress. I have a reward system in place and id earned it and on that on night and day i failed. In the middle of the night when i was half asleep i relapsed and it continued to the next day… scince then the most i can do is 2 days before relapsing. Ive talk to my doctor about getting a treatment for my ADHD… i dont know… im sorry.
I relapsed again today and in my research i came across the Easy Peasy method… and looking for reviews for that led me here.
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@KevinesKay is a person who deals in that book.
He may be able to answer questions.
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As for me, well, welcome brother in Christ. There are few of us here. But, as time goes on we will get more acquainted.
Stay strong, read your bible, the bible has helped me alot. Show up to Church, become apart of the fellowship and above all, put Jesus first.
He will lead you. For we know, I can’t lead, nor do I desire any of that power. Left that to the King.
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Does your heart look to the kingdom, or to earthly desires?
Non of this is easy, but, when things get tough.
Find Jesus, find those who put him first.
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Easy Peasy points to my problem of Brainwashing. That is the faulty idea in my head that my DOC has value. Thus, I felt by quitting it, I was making some sort of sacrifice. Thinking that porn helped to reduce stress or anxiety, or cravings, I often used those as excuses to act out. It’s a lie. I believe in the devil as described in the Bible. And I believe that lies are his greatest weapon. The fact that my soul, along with my flesh, believed in such lies pointed to a bigger problem within me than my acting out. Until God led me to address this, I often relied on lots of willpower to stay sexually sober.
Yet, I’m telling people that Brainwashing was not my only problem. I’ve had several. And they all needed to be identified and addressed. Otherwise, these problems continued to subconsciously work against me, undermining and sabotaging my conscious efforts to stop my behaviors.
Question to men here. What kind of support system to you have outside of God and this forum? I’m referring to my problem of Connection; which I define as men in my life, that know me and are looking out for my personal and spiritual growth. I’ve taken this more seriously now. I have 2 Zoom meetings and 1 in person meeting that I’m involved in. Plus, I’m on the phone with men throughout the week. I don’t do this to fight my addiction. I do this because my previous lack of connection in my life was a major root problem. My behavior was just a symptom. And by ignoring this need to refine it was putting me at a serious disadvantage. My first real connection was an SAA meeting. One can find SA, SAA, SLAA almost anywhere; most definitely online. Currently, all my connections are Christ-based due to my desire to bring Jesus more into my daily living. Shoot me a DM if you want more info on such zoom meetings. They are on Tuesdays and Thursdays.