Would really like some advice on helping to stay sober I’ve had many relapses that have made me unwilling to try again at recovery .but as I’m giving up cannibis as well I’m hoping it helps me abstain from alcohol better than I have Achieved before ,as smoking weed is not actually “sober”…if anyone has and background on my own I would appreciate your thoughts thank you
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Welcome! Glad you’re here! Spend as much time on recovery and keeping your mind occupied as you can. And rest as much as you need. Just take things one day at a time! We’re here for you
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Maybe try ameeting might help ,they helped me stay sober wish you well
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I’m on it 
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Sound advice Ray. Meeting, meeting, meeting, this place. One day at a time, one hour at a time, one minute at a time.
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I can only tell you what worked for me.
First & foremost, after decades of drug & alcohol abuse, hopelessness, misery, despair, bitterness, manipulation & lies…I was fortunate enough to receive the “Gift of Desperation.” I had had enough and I finally surrendered and admitted I needed (and wanted) help.
I learned to be honest, open-minded, and willing to take suggestions and do whatever it took to face the root of my problems.
Since then, I’ve learned to emulate my predecessors and do what they do: keep. it. simple. At the most, it’s One Day at a Time and, frequently, Hours or Minutes at a Time.
I work the Steps, I attend meetings regularly, I’m of service, I have a support network comprised of people I trust, and I reach out to them if and when I struggle.
I don’t regret finding a new way to live and I certainly know what I’m not missing, in regards to drugs & alcohol.
Best of luck. Be kind to yourself.
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Thank you @RoseCityRonin , your AA advice to me this week has been detrimental to me today ,it’s been emotionally rough with something I can’t do anything about until Monday and I picked up the phone and called AA ,my obsession left by the time I’d ended the call this shit works people
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So…you mean not detrimental, then? I hope. At any rate, I’m glad you feel better. Keep it up!
Yes essential, sorry my heads still fucked I’m struggling to sleep never mind form sentences
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Believe. Me: I empathize. It took me months to get my head right. Between all the toxins seeping outta my body and actually having to feel my feelings and dealing with mental health issues… UGH. I would lie in my bed and see (what appeared to be) demons crawling outta the walls. Hang in there. You’re not alone.
Also, I hope I didn’t come across as condescending, previously. If so, it wasn’t my intention.
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No you didn’t , I’ll try and get more sleep so I stop confusing people 
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