Dear one year veterans… is there a thing called one year sobriety crisis? Pre and post…
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Can you elaborate on what you mean 
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If you mean something like:
Hey a year, awesome! Oh shit, aren’t I supposed to have it figured out now? What the hell am I doing with my life? What’s next? Aaaarghhhh
Then I totally got that 
I guess it’s a milestone thing, there’s something about a year that feels particularly significant. It’s like a new calendar year, really the 1st January is just another day but it feels like we should hook all these goals and ambitions on it.
One day at a time, we are exactly where we need to be 
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Yeah, it can be for real. Around any milestone really.
Heck, any time actually.
Like @siand said, a sense that after X time, maybe Y should have already happened. Or maybe a shift of perspective as fog lifts with new realizations and the roll of time can seem scary.
I’ve had these days. Not typically around milestones for me, but I gather I maybe weird that way. Having some right now actually.
And like any other day, I try to be wary of expectations and stay in today.
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Amen to that my friend…
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Existential agony, world weariness, personal f…in inventory… something similar to 3 months frustration but yet different. Precise enough?
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Thank you for reminding me of one day at a time. One day’s burden is enough for one day, or something like that. Just learned it from Netflix 
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Exactly. Haven’t had these thoughts so much around other milestones and was like, one year, what the heck, what’s the fuzz about it. And now in pieces 
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Eh, it’s okay. A sign of being invested and paying attention. Appreciating life to its fullest.
(Except me. Totally not paying attention. 
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Here’s to one more day!
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Well @Eke I wanna be like you. My goal is to be more easygoing and light (headed) as a butterfly 
cause no one needs my so called suffering
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Hannah, it’s important for me not to get caught up in counting the days.( I have 728 days of sobriety… But who’s counting, LOL) I try to stay in the here now one day at a time. More important for me to make the days count… To be of service.
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Hanana, you know you have got this right?
Because we are all here at your back.
I must admit, I don’t know if I’ve started it yet but as I have had it around other milestones I certainly know that it can happen.
But I’ve got a bug at the moment and that’s getting me down so who knows where I am at the moment.
You know that we are here.
You’ve got a lot of stuff going on in your life right now. Be nice to yourself.
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That is so crucial. Right now I’m pissed of I cannot be of service. Things are on ice and for a born electric bunny it’s hard. Though Ive had to slow down last couple of years and learn to live with it 
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Sending you heal vibes and unicorns right now @anon12657779 . Maybe couple of radiation beams too soon as I get there. And hugs.
Thanks for your words. You buddies are something… 
Being nice to myself is not easy but I’ve noticed some slight improvement 
I think many of us have the same thing to learn and to teach eachother.
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You know, “Fireweed” is a good super hero name!
All that radiation gotta do something.
My wife was “chemo- girl”. We went to Scotland the year she was having Chemo and whereas we all got bit by midge’s, not one got to her.
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Yep, I’m gonna beam all the bad guys after I’ve tempted them with my butterfly disguise. Then I’ll rip it off and appear as a giant fireweed (like triffids). Or then I’ll put all the weed on fire… 
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Oh shit, I had it real bad. I couldn’t accept where my life was at one year. I felt (very strongly) that I was never going to get my shit together, or that life wasn’t ever going to stop shitting on me. A short time later I came to my senses. Who the hell am I to expect to have my shit together? Who really HAS their shit together? Who has an easy life? Pretty much no one. “Easy” is defined by me/you/the individual. My view was skewed. And, despite knowing that recovery wasn’t a magic bullet, around the one year mark I was very upset that it wasn’t.
Focus on what IS good about this time in your life. You are sober, yeah? Sounds amazing to me!
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For me there was about 2 weeks after my one year. It was mostly of my own making.
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Hanna, my dear friend. Everyone over my way talks about the weirdness they feel with milestones. @MoCatt I think did a post about it that I can’t find just now. You are such an amazing and resilient woman. These feelings aren’t facts. Stay top, banana. You are right where you are supposeded to be. Reach out any time 
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Thank you, @Meggers, @Englishd @aircircle for replying. I’m too tired (physically) to reply much right now… I get back later
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