I had 5 drinks at a party last night, which is a lot for me. I got terrible sleep and it made me feel so sick today. I also already have anxiety and depression and after 5 drinks it has become clear that alcohol makes it so much worse. Additionally, I have a family history of dementia, and I know alcohol use is terrible for that.
Hoping 36 is not too late to repair the damage.
I just informed my husband of my plan to be sober, so hopefully having the at-home support will help. Sitting here 10 hours into day 1 it seems like a long journey. Any reassurance that I‘ll start to feel better is appreciated!
Welcome to Talking Sober, Alice. Having support at home is very important. So is support from people who are also actively seeking and building a sober life. You are in a great place, with support at home and here!
It takes time, but it does get better. Little by little, day by day. Commit to staying sober until you lay your head down tonight, take actions on that commitment, and you will find out that it’s all okay.
Have a good look around, read threads on early days and how people here have gotten and stay sober. Here’s a couple to kick things off for you. Blessings on your house as you start on your sober path.
Welcome Alice! Sooo glad to have u with us!!! Youve made som great steps already in ur sobriety journey (joining fhis forum for support, talking to ur husband etc). Great work!
It absolutely is not too late I was 38 when i finally got clean and sober. Im 41 now. Its truly amazing to see how life can transform in such a short amount of time, after getting sober. Its like a complete 360° turn lol
This forum has helped me get over 4+ years of clean time. That along with online meetings and daily recovery work, it has helped me transform my life to something I am proud of! It can happen for you too!!
Read around on the threads and participate often Checking in daily (or 2 or 3 times a day even) is recommended for sure. Glad to have u here!!
I had 5 drinks at a party last night, which is a lot for me.
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Can I ask what your drinking behaviour was before the party, for example daily, weekly binges because your phrasing makes it sound like a one off incident.
I usually drink max 3 drinks in a night, and I have one to two drinks 2 to 5 nights a week, but I’ve been “meaning to quit” drinking for years now and I have not managed to do so on my own willpower alone.
Hi Alice and Welcome! First of all, you are young and it is NOT too late for you to heal from alcohol use. If I am being honest, you may not feel great in the beginning but you will get there! I want to encourage you to explore all the tools that many of us use to stay sober: Hobbies, mild exercise, time in nature, journaling, meditation and of course coming here to name a few.
Sitting and thinking about the future and how will you do it is very overwhelming. It’s called future tripping and we all do it in the beginning. So I would encourage you to focus on today only. If it has been a long day, go to bed early. Wake up tomorrow and focus on tomorrow.
Well your not alone now so stick with the winners. Read what the long term sober have been through and the action they have taken and do what they do. Remember your not the special one or the exception to the rule and everything your about to feel is all part of the healing process, it’s normal and we understand your pain so please reach out. I wish you well on your journey
This is the most profound thing that I have read so far in this community…
That has been me one hundred percent. It feels so impossible, that my mind reaches the conclusion “Why bother? What’s the point?”
That said, for me focusing on today, and this moment only, feels extremely hard to do - my mind is all over the place. Sleep has been impossible, this last few days…
Still, your comment is absolutely noteworthy. Thanks for sharing it!
This is SO TRUE! I have a very active mind and can definitely get on a thought loop that wears me out sometimes. So when I started meditating I literally could not do more than a couple of minutes, but everyone said don’t give up just do it as long as you can, but regularly. Now I am a huge believer. I use guided meditation mostly. I also put on a sleep story from my meditation app at night when I go to bed. I never make it past a few minutes because it puts me to sleep
It gets easier as the cravings diminish. I stopped at 45 after relying on alcohol for thirty years (I’m recently diagnosed AuDHD). Now 50 and still sober. I woke up one day with a hangover and said today’s the day: day one, week one, month one passed by. I reminisce about alcohol like an old friend but the cravings have gone. I am determined not have a hangover ever again and really enjoying have a clear head. Good luck - this is a powerful forum, so keep checking in
on your house as you start on your sober path.
I was 38 when i finally got clean and sober. Im 41 now. Its truly amazing to see how life can transform in such a short amount of time, after getting sober. Its like a complete 360° turn lol
Checking in daily (or 2 or 3 times a day even) is recommended for sure. Glad to have u here!!
