Very inspiring!
Yday I listened to a podcast on hoarding and it all sounded completely normal to me from my parents’ house.
Both my grandad’s (who died 15 years ago) and my father’s garage are filled to the rafters w every piece of oily dirty metal scrap and lightbulbs old tools and spare parts and broken things and bits and bobs since the erection of the garages. They are basically unusuable. My dad struggles with aquiring big mechanical/technical things and then putting them somewhere. He’s onto building more storage space since his various barns, garages, basements etc are full. Yet he does not stop to look for technical “aides” to buy which he then never uses.
My parents have never thrown out any of our old childhood stuff and any gifts we gave them. It’s like nothing that enters that house must leave it again. It drives me nuts when I see random unused shit my dead grandmother “gifted” my mother in the 90s take up cupboard space. I remember my mother would be so annoyed at her mother bringing that cheap stuff into the house. Yet the nature of stuff dictates that you have to use it and get something out of it. It seems to have more weight than the human who struggles to get out from underneath all the stuff…
Me too I get very emotionally attached to things, and by far not just the good emotions. I get very confused and overhwelmed with items I feel that I should be using but am not. In the past this was bad. I think I was hoarding. In my dark years. One room of my 2 room flat was unusable. It’s now my main room and totally useable for a long time. I threw out and/or sold so many bags of clothing at one point in early sobriety… About 500books, stacks of old papers…
I want to remain on top of this problem and I find it easier than in the past to throw things out but still pretty hard.
My ex is the same as me. Our basement is ridiculously full. It reminds me of my dad’s garage. We cannot really enter it. we need to sort that shit out.
Thanks for bringing this thread back!