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I’m really sorry! What you’re going through is very hard. I watched my best friend of 10 years go through this earlier this year. I don’t have much advice for you… but know that we are here for you on here! Vent, cry, watch sad movies, eat junk food… most of all be kind and patient with yourself. Hugs!
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Oh sweetheart, I cant imagine how bad you feel right now! Yes, as you said, give yourself time and tlc! Sometimes I do wonder why things like that happen to us.. Im a strong believer that we carefully choose our path before we were born in order learn certain feelings.. Maybe yours is to learn what is like to love and lost? Please be kind to yourself x
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I agree with @Gemstone123 take care of yourself and indulge as much as possible. When my husband and I were having difficulties and he almost called it quits, I couldn’t eat, sleep or focus on work. I was a walking zombie who dreamed about suicide. What helped me was seeking professional help. I got in to see a psychiatrist, was diagnosed with major depressive disorder and anxiety. A year of individual therapy, 6 months of couples therapy and a year on meds before I started feeling like myself again.
For short term, the meds helped almost immediately. I still felt like a zombie, but a zombie who could at least focus on work and survive in her head.
I’m so sorry! I’m also not pushing meds or therapy, just wanted to share what worked for me. Happy to be off meds after that 1st year, but I’d be lying if I said this was going to be easy. We are here for you if you need to vent.
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Aw, I am so sorry to hear your news! Heartbreak is so painful. I’m here for you.
-Sending you a big hug-
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I’m so sorry hunni, I feel your pain, I am facing the same with my hubby of 10 years 
no advice really but just wanted to say you are not alone and send you ((((hugs)))] x
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Hi @lovelife, 2 days before I stopped drinking my partner of 5 years ended our relationship, I love him and thought he was my one. I wondered whether it would be a good idea to try and stop the drinking as all I wanted to do was drown my feelings. But with the support on this forum I have managed 16 days sober 
I really understand how you feel, i know you are heartbroken but my advice to you would be to be as kind as you possibly can be to yourself , don’t think too much about anything, and take each day at a time. Love yourself. Sending a big hug to you 
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10 years ago my fiancé broke up with me. We were together 6 years. I started pills, heavily smoking weed, and drinking daily. None of it helped. I tried to run from it by traveling. That didn’t work either. All I can say is time makes it better. I know it doesn’t help because you’re in the middle of it and this feels like the only moment that exists. But I promise you this is not going to be forever. “Ending it all” is forever, and that’s a road I thought about too. I have proof in my life that that’s not worth it: I moved on, and my life is better. It really will be okay, just not as soon as you probably want.
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