I’ve relapsed recently, and it just reminded me the time of when I was living with my mother for 3 years. Those years it seemed she encouraged my bad behavior and coping habits. I wont say what she said but it was pure intentional with the comments on my weight and bad coping habits, and why I say this is do mother’s suddenly just switch up the moment you turn 12? Because mine did and she still acts like this even if its been years. 
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Slightly different to your situation but when I was a very young child from 5yrs up until I left home at 19 I was surrounded by my parents and neighbours having wild parties, the alcohol they consumed was just insane and as a child in my formative years it obviously had an impact on me. My mother however won’t believe that this is a contributing factor to me having a problem and just says I’m an alcoholic 
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Parents are hardwork sometimes but we’re now accountable for our own sobriety, do it almost as a f#!k you to her if it keeps you sober 
*Edit apologies I’ve realised this is the self harm/eating disorder sub not alcohol! My post was very off topic for you but glad you’re here 
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dont worry about it and definitely will do, also im happy you’ve been sober!! Stay safe out there
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Welcome to the forum. I’m sorry you’re struggling.
Not all mothers, but some. Many adults never really grew up. Do you know your mother’s background? How was her mother toward her? This sounds like learnt behaviour that she’s repeating. Some mothers become hostile towards their daughters when they reach puberty. They see them as a threat and competition. That can happen with a son too. She can be a man hater or something else. I’m not diagnosing your mom or anyone else. I’m also not trying to come up “excuses” for her. Just sharing what I’ve seen along the way.
Body shaming is so toxic and destructive. I hope you can find help 