I have been feeling this quite often lately. I know some of it is trying to get ready for Christmas. 
How do you deal with this, if you don’t mind me asking. I am on day 80.
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Hello @Doreen1
What is it about the holidays and in general that is causing you to feel this, do you know?
For my journey through addiction, when I chose to get sober, I didn’t really know who I was. My dive into addiction was mainly caused by my need to feel loved, wanted, accepted. I was able to feel all of those when I was immersed in my poor habits and addictive behaviors.
When I became sober I needed to find myself, accept myself, love myself, forgive myself, and learn what I actually enjoyed in life. Work, hobbies/interests, and the people who I could lean on when things got tough… And not codependency.
Think of this as a new beginning to create someone and something that is truly you.
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Hey @Doreen1, it’s not uncommon to feel blah this time of year.
I suffer from seasonal depression, and while sober, it feels amplified. Without booze, it feel more intense and raw and I feel exposed.
The stress of Holidays doesn’t help either.
I guess for the most part, I grin and bear it. I try to do small things that bring hapiness, whether its watch my favorite programs or listen to a good song. It’s all I can do.
I know I’ll feel better in a few months, and you will too, but until then, let’s get through today sober. 
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I love xmas now in y drinking days i couldnt remember if i enjoyed it . but today this will be my 38 sober one and its great round the table with the family silly hats on pulling crackers .and in hogmany we go to a AA dance kilt aswell lifes good
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My immediate thought is to reach out and help others. The resulting feeling of happiness helps achieve the content you’re missing.
Another is to complete tasks you’ve been putting off. I always feel more content when accomplishing things I’ve been procrastinating about.
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Thank you for mentioning that! I have been putting the house on the back burner, due to physical limitations. I am 60 with a bad back. I need to nail that down, and I’m sure that will help.
I have been going to meetings everyday, but I am afraid to talk in front of a group.
Have a great day!
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Restless, irritable, discontent (RID). Like so many others, the 1st time I read that was eye-opening. “Hey, that’s me exactly!” Everytime I have the urge to drink I seem to be somewhere within RID. Again, helping others etc. can help get RID 
of that feeling.
I’ve never liked speaking in front of a group, including AA. I find it gets easier over time, particularly as you become more comfortable with that group. Try starting small - congratulate those with milestones, a quick welcome to those new or coming back, a few words about yourself and wrap it up. Some are born orators, others like us are not! No big deal.
Make it a great day!
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Thanks! Great words of wisdom!
Talking in meetings will come once you feel confident enough ,ive been speaking at meetings in Scotland and all over the world after 37 years sober its a honour to be asked wish you well
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