Her post was very encouraging and supportive and you’ve chosen to attack it?
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Welcome. In this case, if it were me, I would reset to 2 October.
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I would reset. But we are all on our own journeys, with a wide variety of circumstances. This app is not the end all. Gotta decide for yourself how your number of days on an app affect you and your health and recovery. Best wishes!
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I think that it depends on how the OP is treating their counter and the mindset. Because it is a setback, and the frame of mind was to use, then–if it was me–I’d say reset. I personally want to know the last time I used, even if it wasn’t a full blown relapse. Of course the OP is not me, or anyone else, and perhaps the OP only wants to trace back the time from when they were in a full blown relapse, but the OP did ask for advice and people gave it.
I’m curious, if you’re tired of what you see as group think, then why do you stay on the forum?
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Wtf?! I’m encouraging this person to stick with us for support. Would you rather me tell them they’re going to have to reset in the future? No, I won’t do that. I feel a positive approach is much more helpful. My post was meant for the OP, NOT you so mind your own business and move along if you don’t agree with what I have to say.
And I never said this app was the only way to get sober. Don’t twist my words.
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So I’ve actually asked the question what counts as a relapse and there really is not set answer. It’s a matter of personal opinion whether you feel as though it was a relapse or not. However if your feeling that strongly about it one way or the other then maybe for you restarting the clock is what you need. Either way it’s nice to have you here and thanks for your honesty.
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It’s a sobriety timer. Sober means you aren’t under the influence of drugs or alcohol. If the timer is a measuring stick for how long you’ve managed to stay completely unaffected by drugs or alcohol, then any use would constitute a reset in my opinion. It’s no longer a consistent uninterrupted stretch. It doesn’t take away what you’ve learned or experienced in the past, and of course you should pick yourself up and keep going. No one is saying it’s a failure or that all is lost, but the consistent stretch has been broken. So maybe it’s an indication that something else needs to be addressed regarding why there was an urge to drink. It can be a learning experience.
If we’re splitting hairs between what’s a slip and what’s a relapse, it seems like we’re trying to justify some use. I can speak for myself, and I’m sure others here would agree, I’m here because I couldn’t drink responsibly or safely at all. So the goal is complete abstinence. If I could slip here and there with no consequence, I guess I wouldn’t need a sobriety forum because I’d be a normal drinker… A slip for me turns into a bender and it takes me a long time to get back to a point where I can string together any decent amount of time. Just calling it a slip is a slippery slope (no pun intended) into full on active addiction for me.
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Guilt is one of the worst feelings that one can have. It’s counter productive and does nothing to support growth and recovery.
It’s an old fashioned harsh way of thinking.
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Couldn’t agree more. And I think where a lot of suggestions to keep it simple are coming from.
A great way to live without guilt is to be honest with ourselves.
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Not everyone’s SLIP is a relapse. We all could be more open minded and less judgemental.
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Thank you. Be well.
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Exactly, honesty helps to deal with guilt.
And I don’t think anyone is being judgemental here.
Relapse and slip get banded around on here sometimes not being used in the right way.
The main thing to realise is, whatever one calls it, that it should be used as a learning tool. Something, somewhere isnt working so new measures should be used to rectify and recover.
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My opinion a slip is mental and spiritual. A relapse requires physical participation.
@Timmeehh it doesnt hurt to reset. As others have mentioned honesty and accountability. You asking the question shows yours. Keep it up.
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I vote no reset. The counter is controversial. It depends on your personality. You didn’t fall off the wagon. A banana has 0.5% alcohol. Congratulations on your quit!
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Thanks everyone for the support and answers , so the reason why i wasn’t sure to reset , is when i used to drink i could never stop 
that’s why i kinda was proud it stayed with one.
But the plan is to never drink again , so i made the decision to reset it. 
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If it were me I would reset as well . I say this because I know how my mind works. I would somehow justify that it was ok because I only had one. But the progressive nature of the disease would soon be telling me it’s OK to have a few more next time because I did so well the last. One is too many and a thousand never enough. Alcohol is only a symptom of something else that’s fucked up in my life. I’m glad you came back.
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