Hi everyone, so i’ve been sober and stopped smoking since 1 september. I had a little relapse where i drank 1 beer and smoked 1 cig on 2 october ,
Can’t decide.myself if i have to reset to 2 october or not?
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I personally would. 🤷
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So I have 289 days. All I can say if it I had one or two beers and that was it. Hell no I wouldn’t want to reset it bc it was only 2. But I know deep down I wouldn’t constantly beat my self up over it. With that said I think it’s up 2 u, if your asking I’m sure your already regretting and being hard on yourself and answering your own qs.
Second I got sober once in 2018 for I said like 4 months in a recent post, but in reality it was only like a month, I keep stealing drinks here and there and thought ahh I’m ok I can moderate, well be careful with that because I sent myself into a down hill fuck my shit up spiral. Your addict mind will try to trick you because you only had one drink, it will end up grabbing you again. So I’d stay accountable reset the timer and stay on the path to sobriety
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I mean, it’s your timer, but…
…so.
Either way, take it for what it is. It’s not like you lose what you learned in that first month of sobriety, yeah? Heck, I relapsed bunch for years, stumbling to figure out what I was doing wrong. But if we’re honest about it we can learn and grow past it.
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Yeah, go for it mate. Honesty is the best policy. Plus that was October, we are in November now. What have you lost?
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It’s much less about the time ticking on the clock and much more about being honest with ourselves. Resetting the clock doesnt take away from our blood, sweat, and tears put into our sobriety. Dont beat yourself up and obsess about the clock, focus on what you want your life to look like. Keep up the good fight!
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You know I had to reset my counter so many times. And I was in your position where I only had one Glass or two… But even if I didn’t reset in that moment. It destroyed my honesty and this aim I had. To have xx amount of days sober. I couldn’t go on like nothing had happened. And if you ask here on the forum I think you know the answer that it should be a reset. Because deep down you know you didn’t stay sober in this particular moment…
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Welcome to our awesome community and congrats on choosing sobriety. I agree with the others, be honest with yourself and reset. This will be the last time you’ll have to hit that reset now that you have all of us to support you going forward.
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If you made the decision to have a beer and smoke, then absolutely I think you should reset. It is a relapse.
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You can decide for yourself. Don’t listen to all the group think here. Frankly I get tired of it.
Make the choice that works for you. Best wishes.
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It’s a slip up. Hardly a relapse.
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That’s the point he doesn’t have to listen to us.
But he asked the question and it seems the majority of people go with reset.
Now, whether we pay much attention to our counters or not, not being honest with ourselves just opens the door to more dishonesty.
The counter just marks time, it’s how we feel inside.
The op asked the question, he must have been feeling guilty.
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Everyone is entitled to their opinion. I’my opinion the counter is representative of consistent time free of the given substance. If I use the substance I would reset my counter. Relapse doesn’t necessarily mean spiral out of control or get wasted, it just means you have broken your streak of not using…call it a relapse or slip up or whatever you like. It is always up to the individual whether you reset or not, but if you ask a question then people are going to give their opinions and talk about their thought process. That is generally how forums and discussions work.
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Sine you asked. IMO. Reset.
If you slip again and just have one beer in December then what ?
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There are other apps that count drinks or days where you didn’t drink. Those are the apps for trying to taper off. This app is not built like that. Fair question with a fair answer. If someone comes to the app to “almost” stay sober, sure - leave that number counting.
Unfortunately, many people with chemical and/or process addictions have a habit of skirting the truth. By not resetting, the OP is actually carrying on a falsehood. At the end of it all, still up to that person to use the app as intended or carry on.
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If over a month later you are still bothered by the debate in your head about whether or not you should reset I think you know you should.
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When you have the mind set that one drink is only a slip and not a relapse you are allowing your brain to think it’s ok to have more slips.
I used to slip every other day. Then I would only have slips on weekends.
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He asked, we answered.
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I wouldn’t but you have to do what is right for you. If you think you should then you should. I quit meth 14 years ago. Three years ago I used one time while drinking. So for me it’s like a marathon. If I fall would I go back to the starting line or get up and keep running. You can bet your sweet ass I’m not starting over I’m getting up and finishing. But that’s me, you have to do what’s right with your own conscience.
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Not true. You don’t know that will be his last time. It’s arrogance to think that being on this app and getting “support” is the only way to get clean or sober. I don’t agree at all.