I’m really tired of work events where I constantly offered drinks. I don’t drink guys. Leave it alone
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Totally up to you. I didn’t really want to have a deeper discussion yet, so I told them I’m having a dry January. Next time it comes up I think I’ll explain how much better I felt this month and that I’m going to keep on with being sober. Whatever feels right to you!
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That’s a question only you can answer. For me, I have not disclosed my sobriety to my colleagues. I hold my anonymity close to my heart. Maybe some day that will change but for now I simply respond “I don’t drink”. If they ask me why not, then my response is "why do you drink? Alcohol serves no purpose in my life. "
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You don’t have to tell them anything if you don’t want to. Alcohol use and even misuse is so normalized in society that non drinkers are looked at weirdly. Like folks just can’t figure it out.
I was in a situation at a breakfast with mimosas going around and the host kept offering me some and I had to politely decline three times before she stopped! And this is a person who is usually savvy with subtle hints. I do wish people would just take the first no and leave it at that. Oh well, folks can be dense or incredulous or whatever they want to be. Not my problem.
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Tell them your on vitamins that are affected by alcohol and that your watching your diet.
Just say no thanks
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Saying no is not a problem. Maybe I just need some empathy on the situation
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You do not need to disclose anything that you do not want out there. For me, I only have told a select few people. I don’t put myself in situations where there is alcohol. I just am not ready… and that’s okay!
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Empathy like you want them to understand youre working thru something?
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Yo, I’m 5 years sober, here’s my story on the topic.
I’ve told my colleagues that I don’t drink, some asked why, I tell them that I’ve drank enough in my life and I’m done. That’s been enough to get people to stop pressuring me to drink. Those who get it, get it.
Some people have asked more questions, I’ve answered honestly.
I’ve never really felt judged because of that. In fact, several others have discretely told me that they were sober too, and some even asked for advice on how to quit. So, it’s actually been beneficial in more than one way; new sober pals!
There’s some people that prefer to keep sobriety on the down low, and I totally respect that, and then theres folks like me, the open books. 
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It sounds like you’re tired of having to dodge the booze at work events, having to say no in itself can be a pain especially when you have to repeat yourself. There is sometimes an expectation that everyone will be drinking alcohol. You might also be hyper aware of the presence of alcohol and the questions about whether you want any due to your position early in sobriety. I’m sorry if I’m making assumptions that aren’t accurate, but I can relate. Though I haven’t been to a work event sober, I’ve been to some for my husband’s work and it has at times felt awkward, though more so annoying to be honest. Like, give it a rest! No, I don’t want a drink thank you very much. 
I’m hope that your work peeps or these work events get easier and aren’t as burdensome for you. I’m glad you said you have no problem saying no, that’s a huge plus in your favor. 
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I think it depends on the kind of relation you have with your co workers.
For me I work in a team of 5 people including myself. It’s a safe space and we are close to eachother and so share a lot of private stuff.
So yes I told them and we talk about it sometimes. I work in a drugstore and when a customer has a drinking problem and comes for advice the give me a small sign so I can choose to help ore not. My decision.
The same if I have that customer first. I decide if I open up and be fulnerable to a customer to help them to move forward.
Same here at the forum.
My choice, same for you.
Ask yourself the question, does it help me, is it safe?
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I told work. It was part of my accountability and honesty. I told my Boss, and then the employees. I am glad I did. I have the full support and encouragement from everyone. My boss even let’s me out of work 10 minutes early so I can make my meetings on time. I hid my alcoholism, Im not hiding my sobriety 
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“I hid my alcoholism, im not hiding my sobriety”
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I told my boss bc it was affecting my job and got nothing but understanding. I told my colleagues bc I didn’t want to be put in any awkward situations and once they knew it was never offered to me. The best part is once people see the difference in myself some of the people with the same problem start asking questions about how I did it and seeking advice or just an ear to open up to. We are rarely the only one.
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I thought I hid my alcoholism. Turns out I was not real good at that.
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You don’t owe them an explanation. There’s lots of people who abstain from alcohol for various reasons other than recovery from addiction. You could just say it’s for “health reasons” and leave it at that. That’s not a lie.
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I told my boss. He then high fived me and said “I’m sober too!” It we as great! The other ones i just smile and tell them I don’t drink.
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That’s it!
Four claps for you
I said the exact thing when i got my 22 year chip
It’s totally socially acceptable to just say, “I don’t drink, thanks though.” There’s really no explanation necessary after that. Kudos to you for sticking up for yourself!
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Yoy have the power to open up and choose if and or if you wany to open up… i was one a work trip awhile back i think maybe 6 months into my sobriety and a co worker and i went out every night to dinner sat at the bar every night .one night i think it was maybe like the 4th night he noticed i never ordered alcohol and he nicely asked hey i noticed you have not drank any and he asked just just ask i was fine with it .but he asked like why is that and if i was taking a break or if it was an issue before because he certainly knew i had of drank before thats a given .After he asked i was straightforward with his question i was like it was a a big issue before and who knew it opened up to dumb things we both knew better we did in our past and he laughed over funny stuff…I tried my best to hide my alcoholism and now i have no shame in hiding my sobriety ! It is something truly what you wanna do tho if you want to open up over time
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