Ouch, that does sound frustrating. This question comes up a lot and I will add a thread with lots of links on this topic…perhaps you will find a bit of clarity within there.
I am sorry this is causing a rift. That is certainly understandable as you are on different paths at the moment…I am sure your focus is on staying sober and congrats on your 2 months!!! And he wants life to stay the same and isn’t where you are at. That can be confusing and frustrating and seriously annoying as well. Please know you are not alone in having a spouse who still drinks.
One thing I would suggest is to sit down and have an honest discussion about your dreams, fears and concerns. Best to do when you are both well rested, he isn’t hungover, you both are feeling positive, etc. Sometimes I find writing stuff down beforehand helps me stay on track with what I want to get across. Airing it out can be hard, but can help relieve pressure. I am sure he is worried about losing his drinking friend (you) and the changes in your lives and that is understandable. Hopefully a frank conversation can help you feel more connected.
Here is the thread I mentioned previously…
Keep us posted! 