Does anyone have experience of healing codepenancy?

[Jed_Forest]

I feel like Im just starting to realise how smothering and controlling this relationship has been.

Codependency is a relatively new term for me, and although Ive watched a couple videos about it,its quite hard to digest, and take the blindfold off.

Yeah, basically this is a call for help. Are there book recommendations? Online support groups? I dont know how to search for a group online,because I dont live near a group, so am I just supposed to choose a random country with a group that fits my time zone?

I feel like Im unpacking all this childhood gunk,that has been so wrapped and embedded i to my addictions which I am now working on removing. Its quite big work.

Any pointers from those with lived experience and self knowledge of healing co dependancy, I would really appreciate hearing from you.

This relationship has felt like a prison since it began. I guess I just thought that was normal because of my childhood exposures.

[Mno]

This thread might be a good place to start:

Are you affected by a loved one who’s an addict?

Have you been affected by someone else’s drinking or them doing drugs? I have. We may be parents, children, spouses, partners, brothers, sisters, other family members, or friends, of alcoholics or drug addicts. No matter what our specific experience has been we share a common bond: we feel our lives have been affected by someone else’s drinking. I have been wanting to start an Al-Anonish type topic here ever since I joined Sober Time and TS. This is not Al-Anon. I do highly recommend Al-Anon …

Lots of experiences there while I don’t have too much myself. Wishing you all success.

[Jed_Forest]

I appreciate the share

[Lisa07]

That’s an awesome book called Codependent No More by Melody Beattie.

Here’s a link to CoDA and on this website there’s a link to meetings both in person and online.

https://coda.org/meeting-materials/twelve-steps/

[Dazercat]

Welcome Jed. I cannot tell exactly what you’re looking for. But…..

I do a lot of Al-Anon. Meetings etc……..

My favorite reader is

It’s a daily reader. Many Al-Anoners I know say it’s their favorite and read year after year.

If you grew up in an alcoholic family I’ve heard this is a great one. Some meetings are just on this book.

I hope you can find what you’re looking for.

[SassyRocks]

You may also want to give this book a look….

How to Do the Work: Recognize Your Patterns, Heal from Your Past, and Create Your Self by Nicole LePera