That one, I don’t have a textbook answer. I don’t think there is a textbook answer. Personally I think it’s like learning to swim. You dip your toe in the water, you go deeper, farther into the water; you float first - no swimming, just floating - then you kind of wave your arms around and experiment, and you find what works to move you this way, then that way, etc etc.
It’s not like flipping a light switch. It’s messy and it’s not elegant. It’s always one tiny step at a time, one day, one hour at a time.
It’s evolution. You’re evolving:
Take care and don’t give up. Have you checked out some of the resources on this list?