I know what I want but it is so easy to fall back into misery hopefully this time i learned
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It does get easier. But it takes time for that to happen, built one day at a time.
It sounds like you’ve had a bit of struggle getting going. Have you thought about changing your approach to getting sober? My first attempts failed too. When it stuck, it involved trying things that I didn’t want to do before, which included AA and greater accountability and involvement with sober folk in general. For you it may look similar, or maybe different. What have you tried before?
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Multiple attempts some serious some half ass but i keep trying guess that is good
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At this point anything is worth trying cause my way isnt working never has good weeks good month then bad decades but I know myself very well and whatever i neef to do has to happen
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It does get a little easier as time passes. But the objective is to keep busy. For example I am on day 29. And I picked Sudoku. I literally went to the store and bought 6 books. And Everytime my mind starts to wonder off I open it up and try to complete a puzzle. Next thing I know I’ve done about 3. And so much time has passed. But it’s all just an hour at a time. That’s how I look at it. But hang in there
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Love the people here cause they have been thru the struggle … I keep busy then i am a reward type guy … Ok you did great 1 time u deserve it type non sense … And i know what that is … Just have to be bigger then the moment and get to the next day … This forum is incredible
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I am pretty excited to see you say this, actually, because that is the exact thought that led me to try more things and eventually get some more steady sobriety as a result.
There are a lot of things you can try, and there’s no reason you have to limit yourself to just one. AA is a popular program for good reason — it’s widely available, free, and has helped countless people stay sober. There are newer programs with different approaches too: IOP, Recovery Dharma, SMART Recovery, etc. Rehab helps lots of people too. You can read a lot about those topics on the forum here from people more knowledgeable about them than I. For me, addressing my mental health problems was also part of the puzzle.
But don’t half ass it this time. You would just be cheating yourself. If you ever need cheering on though, speak up! We’re in this together.
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Luv it not half assing at all this time i was just being honest bout the past … I totally get AA but I go sometimes n just see liers n fakes … My opinion … But to tell the truth I will go and actually get a sponsor this time why not … And i am not talking about everyone in AA but there are hustlers there … Always open minded n take everyone at their word but kinda a trigger
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The reward this is an awesome idea. Mine is usually something that has to do with food…cupcakes and ice cream…lol
But keep it up. Your doing great! And if nobody has told you today, I’ll tell you…I am proud of you!! Keeo pushing
No my reward is bad like go out 1 night or you can drink normal this time … So that is the mindset that i need to change
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No worries, love the honesty. Honesty is super important in sobriety. I’ve had my share of half attempts too.
It’s all about trying things until something works. Trying AA again sounds useful. My first few meetings were not my favourite but I found a time and place with people more my style, and I value those meetings I had there. I also have learned a lot from sticking around here and reading other people’s stories and input.
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If you dont like the meeting there are plenty more you can go to take what you need leave the rest , just sit and listen and maybe get a sponsor two things Desire And Effort wish you well
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It’s very encouraging to see your willingness to try anything. We see a lot of people who say they would do anything but refuse to do any type of formal recovery. That’s fine if there is a solid foundation, but that foundation has to come from help, usually from others. So congrats on being open to things you weren’t before! I can’t tell you how big a step this is!
For me, I went the IOP route for 4 months after my detox. I was off work and had the ability to do so. Since then I’ve been a regular member here and see a mental health team every week. I have often thought about joining AA, but my road has always led me much more towards mental health recovery to achieve my substance abuse recovery. The two go hand in hand for most of us. I ended up on that particular path because of 2 seperate hospitalizations for my mental health and addiction issues. I am grateful for all that has happened because its led me to over 2.5 years of sobriety.
One day at a time is the key to all sobriety and recovery. Sometimes I had to go a second at a time in the beginning. In regard to my mental health there are still times when I go a minute or second at a time. After so much practice I know I can get through absolutely anything with this tactic.
Welcome to our crazy, dysfunctional family here. We got all the advice and support you could ask for from an online resource, and also all the hilarity.
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