I’m coming up to the 30 day period and my emotions are all over the place, I feel like I just want to be alone as everyone is so overbearing, I thought I’m suppose to be getting better, I feel so low today I’m really struggling
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Hey Tom 
Congratulations on your almost 30 ODAATs.
I think you’re right where you are suppose to be. Emotions all over the place. I know I was. Addict brain doesn’t like what you’re doing?
The good news is, we get our feelings back.
The bad news is, we get our feelings back.
I think it’s normal.
Go for a nice walk or a drive. Crank out the tunes. Tell whoever you’re sorry but you just want to be alone. Have a fun snack. Stick with us friend. And you never have to do this again.
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Thank you for the motivation
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Hey @Tomatron85
I’m sorry you’re feeling so all over the place emotionally. I’ve been there. It was the worst in early sobriety like @Dazercat said. I don’t have any advice, sorry. I just wanted to say that it does get better. For me, having professional support (therapy, psychiatry) helped me through the early days. Social support is important too, even if it feels intolerable sometimes. Hang in there.
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First off, congrats on getting close to 30 days. That’s no small thing, no matter how rough it feels right now. What you’re going through is actually really normal in early recovery. The emotional rollercoaster, the urge to isolate, feeling overwhelmed by people who may mean well but just don’t quite get it; it’s all part of the process.
Early sobriety is like thawing out after being numb for a long time. Everything comes rushing in: sadness, anger, anxiety, even grief. And yeah, it can feel like you’re going backward instead of forward. But here’s the truth: this is getting better. It just doesn’t feel like it yet. Healing is messy before it’s peaceful.
You don’t have to be perfect or feel “better” by day 30. You just have to keep showing up—one moment, one breath, one meeting, one prayer at a time. Let yourself feel what you feel without judgment. And know this: you’re not broken. You’re healing.
Reach out, even if it’s just to say you’re having a hard day. You don’t have to go through this part alone. You’re doing the work, and it will get lighter. Keep going. Better is coming, even if you can’t see it yet.
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Congratulations on your almost month sober!! Hell yeah! I second what @Dazercat said, HALT, its definitely a thing.
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Sorry to hear that Tom. It is normal to feel a little overwhelmed at times. At times like that it’s good to share about it - call people in recovery, share about it here on Talking Sober - so you’re taking some constructive steps already, with this post.
Don’t give up. Just like flossing and brushing your teeth, the results some with daily simple practice 
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Congratulations on ur upcoming 30 day milestone! Lots of great advice has already been mentioned. Its very normal to go thru fluctuating emotions and energy levels im early recovery. We are sooo used to numbing our emotions out with substances that we feel everything now that we are clean and sober.
Not only that, but milestones can even effect our mood and energy levels also… at least it did for me. Every milestone ive ever had, was also accompanied by fatigue, irritability, low mood. And then once the milestone passed, things began to level out again.
Take it easy and be gentle with urself. This too shall pass 
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Hey Tom - well done on your upcoming 30 days. Emotions are all over the place as we are starting to feel all the suppressed feelings over our years of addiction. Our body is also detoxing and this can be an emotional experience.
You are doing great. Stay connected to your support system. Keep pushing the cravings and healing in your recovery. It does get better 
Keep putting in the work friend - hope to see you around. This is a supportive caring community to be a part of 
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well you aren’t alone my friend, i’ve got almost 7 yrs clean and i have been struggling a lot too.
hang in there, so will i
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Hope your ok man
Just focus on doing what is in front of you and doing the next right thing.
All good