Goooood morning all! Sending you all strength for the day and belief in keeping sober. I have woken up in a good place today and feeling good for not having the beer or wine I see in my house and want to drink each night. I am wondering if I need to have the conversation with my husband about removing all alcohol from the house particularly wine and beer, spirits don’t bother me so much. Would that make more sense? Has anyone else done this with a partner who still drinks? Is that room much / a lot to ask from them? Sometimes it’s just thirst I’m feeling but there no soft drinks there as an alternative. Perhaps wine fridge needs to be a soft drinks and water fridge? Comments please. 
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I did not have my husband remove it, but it was hard at first. I would see the bottle of wine on the counter and it would tempt me. But ultimately I had reached a point where the thought of drinking upset me more that seeing the alcohol in the house.
If you really think it could be too tempting then I think it is worth having a conversation. Let him k ow how you feel and ask if he would feel comfortable moving it to somewhere out of your daily view.
YOU CAN DO IT!!
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Thank you, that’s helpful. Maybe, I just need to see how I go. We have a few different fridges so perhaps one will be mine and the other for beer that I don’t look in so much. How long have you been sober for? What were the highs and lows? I’m in very early days and experiencing swings of emotion. Just saw an old friend and felt really giddy, then wanted to cry! Heart in a mixing bowl or ingredients.
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Hey there!! 
I did request no wine in the house. Spirits I didn’t and don’t mind, tho of course I spent plenty of years drinking those as well. But wine…no, none in the house. Just too easy for me. It took my husband awhile to understand this. I love the idea of various fizzy waters in the beverage cooler so you have something to choose from. It is okay to ask for what you need. 
And emotions, feeling them and them being big, is super normal in early days and weeks. It is a big transition to not numbing ourselves and our feelings. Your body has a lot of self regulating and healing to do. Be gentle with yourself.
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I don’t think it’s unreasonable to ask him to remove drinks that may trigger you from the house. Your husband is supposed to support you in whatever you want to do in life, and vice versa. There is nothing weak about asking this of a partner, you know what your triggers are, and want them out of your safe space.
Ask him to only bring home whatever he needs for one sitting, so there’s no triggering drinks around. My husband would have no qualms with this.
Talk to your husband, then fill that cooler with your favourite non alcoholic drinks and rock on with your sobriety 
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I can say from my own experience that it is WAY HARDER to quit drinking when alcohol is in the house and spouse drinks. Not impossible, but harder. Most definitely talk it through with your husband. The idea of his fridge, and your fridge is smart! Wishing you well!
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