Entertaining a craving just makes it harder

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In the recent past I learned If I can’t t smoke weed or drink but I say I want to it makes it way harder

Like I know it will be a bad idea but if I say I can, not doing it is extremely hard and aggravating. It makes the cravings last longer and I aggrevate my wifey who desperately does not want me to be under the influence

I know I can’t but the want can be a downward spiral

How can I change that “want”?

I asked my wife if weed is a bad idea. Of course she said it’s a bad idea because she knows how I get.

If I smoke weed or drink alcohol today on my day off, I’d be doing it be4 work or spending money which will , if I’m lucky, just bring me back to a day 1 . If not bring me back here to day 1 I’d be binging loosing myself

Any way, when I have a craving I can make 3 choices
1 don’t touch it and just let it go
2 crave crave and crave gripping to a no I won’t
3 crave crave crave and give in

Number 2 is the worst feeling because I don’t want to give in yet I want to give in making the cravings last until I pick up

I’m working on number 1 right now because if I think i can pick up, cravings last longer but If I say I won’t and I let it go the cravings disappears faster
So I’m trying not to entertain the thought of myself picking up because it makes cravings harder and longer

Anyway that’s what I’m thinking about

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Proud of u for working so hard at ur recovery. Drugs n alcohol really serve no good purpose or benefit to us. Even if we think they do, its our minds lieing to us.
In the beginning of my recovery when i had an urge to use, i could literally drive myself INSANE thinking about that craving and telling myself that i didnt want to use. Telling myself to stop thinking about using drugs was in a weird sense, still think about the drug. If that makes sense. Distraction used to work well and still does. Even when i get a fleeting thought of wanting to use, i acknowledge it, realize that its only a thought and that i dont have to act on it, id go thru my reasons why i quit in the 1st place, and then go and do something else to take my mind off of it. Overtime it gets easier to let it go :slight_smile:

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Thank you. Knowing I don’t need to pick up is helpful

I need to learn how to use my mind instead of my mind using me

Thank you @Butterflymoonwoman

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Very nicely said. Spot on. Cravings will become less frequent. Flex those sober muscles.

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Me too. Best way. Acknowledge, let go and do something else. Something that’s in your best interest. Something that will uplift you, rather than drag you back down into the pit of despair. Or, at least, something to take your mind off the craving. Listening to music whilst on a walk outside does the trick for me. Or watching something funny.

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