Hi guys, little bit of background: a year ago I had a nervous breakdown, my ignored addictions and unresolved ptsd from childhood trauma finally catapulted me into depression depths I hadn’t been before and there seemed no escape. I’d quit my job, cut contact with all friends and contacts (even ignoring family for a while), and went into a cycle of self-sabotage through binging my addictions, totally isolating myself and generally being lost. I’d always hoped to emerge from this a ‘better’ me somehow after ‘finding myself’, at which point I’d re-approach my friends etc and everything would turn out fine after then. But that powerful hope I held, nonetheless procrastinated into almost a year of loneliness by now. Several months ago I finally started making some gains in my resolve, last quitting 18 days ago now. Although I feel relatively confidently on track sobriety-wise, I feel eerily alienated from all the isolation. I don’t quite let myself go like before, and maturely focussing upon my growth is a true morale-boost of its own, but that doesn’t change the fact that I often feel quite intense anxiety, estrangement and detachment from my surroundings now somehow (like an observer, strange and not quite myself). I don’t feel natural in most social interactions anymore, as if I have to fake most of them because I’ve forgotten what connection is. All it does is throw life lines to my irrational defense-mechanism. And it feels like life in general isn’t easy to genuinely stimulate me as much anymore, shared fun is double fun after all… But it’s not all gloom - at least I’m finally clean again, feeling surprisingly good, back in touch at least with family and gradually overcoming my avoidance of social exposure with the insight of how important it actually is. I’ll be moving accommodation soon, after which I immediately plan to join some clubs of interest and find a job before hopefully starting studying asap. I’ve already written what I want to send my (former) friends to try to make it up to them and catch up if they’re still happy to… One major step I maybe even look forward to is finally seeing a psychologist in 3 weeks for the first time, as I don’t want to downplay my psychological state like before. Hello honesty. I know as a 100% fact I want out of my history of failure. No more, I’m on a mission… We only have one invaluable life, and I’m increasingly aware of that…!
Anyone with any experience and/or advice on this subject would be much appreciated!
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