Im lonely most of the time. Have no friends… today is me 14th day sober of alcohol. I want to get beers so bad, the craving is real… diddnt had so much craving before. Well its 7;50 Pm and store close in about 10 min. That always lessen my craving because i know i cant get any alcohol anymore.
I feel so depressed and Nothing seem to be fun anymore. I dont game with my online friends also anymore because without alcohol iT seems so
Boring ;(
I wish i could keep iT in the weekends. Just drink on a saturday night, play, laugh and make fun with friends online.
But i guess Thatll be too risky for me😞 i feel like a loser by saying “i can manage alcohol” while Im only 14 days in. I diddnt drank all week. 3/4 days a week. But the amount i drank was ridiculous.
I hope soon i can find things Thatll distract me from Being lonely. Need to meet new people but i dont socialize much
What you’re feeling is completely normal. Getting sober isn’t just abstaining from alcohol, it’s a transformation, a metamorphosis. It will take a while before your mind becomes clear and your true self emerges.
People often become depressed or feelings of mourning, it is hard, but roll with it knowing that it does get better.
Things that help is:
Exercise
Meditation
AA meetings or SMART meetings
Healthy diet
Sleep
It’s a hard time early on that we all go through in the beginning and its possible to get through it!
I would think getting sober is the perfect time to, as the kids say, “Get good.”
You posted about feelings of boredom before. It’s a tricky spot and in my experience an important one to get past to stay clean and happy. For me sobriety was a great opportunity. So much more free time (and money ) to try out new things. It took getting outside my comfort zone.
In talking to others some of that required trust. I was nervous trying to connect with others. Joining a program of recovery helped that a lot. So did just taking a chance on talking to people. The more I did the more I found that people around me were actually pretty damn cool.
That all said, there’s always here on the forum. Lots of cool, sober folks doing cool, sober things. Great to see you back and rocking those two weeks!
Thank you! People responding to my personal questions help alot! So do you… and still remember my old post? Ur memory is good haha.
I bought myself a Nice gift from Money i usually got drunk on! Thats a good thing i guess Hehe.
Clean is the way . Now happiness Will follow soon i hope. Im usually active at night since i have no job anymore. Quitting Will give me oppertunity to get a job again. But not as quick now. Need to focus on myself otherwise i cannot hold a job!
Thx!
By the way: you may have seen that i started exercising. I just feel down and dont seem the point atm. Its tiring hahaha. Well, ill just hang on now
I can relate. I have zero friends and I’m 15 days sober today. This is not the first time I’ve been here either. Believe me when I say this if we could control ourselves then we wouldn’t be here. Our addictions have consumed us. I know it’s HARD, we all understand but you CAN do this.
If theres any way i could contact you on the journey sometimes that would be great to have someone to talk to who experiences quite the same! If not, ill stick to the forum! Great forum😌
Ha, ditto. After a few weeks I splurged and bought a super fancy electric tea kettle. It’s a silly thing, but I’m enjoying a lot more tea these days. Especially herbal tea before bed. Money much more well spent!
And yeah for the exercise. It can be a grind, especially if it’s been a while. I was super out of shape when I started again. Slowly but surely though, just like recovery, I put the time in every day and saw little improvements. Now I can jog 2 miles, climb stairs without breaking a sweat, and I’ve dropped 30 lbs. It’s a physical reminder of the steady work it takes to build a good life back up.
Time and focus will mend a lot of things. I’m over four months in and life already looks very different from where I started. Keep getting better at getting better, my friend!
Hang in there man. I’m about to hit 80 days and trust me it’s worth it. You cave now, you’ll be full of regret later.
Stay strong, stay sober. Maybe get into some new hobbies that you don’t associate with drinking. I hardly game anymore because it was a drinking hobby.
I felt exactly the same! In early recovery I thought boredom would kill me. I then started to take walks, read books, do meditation, watch fun-videos, learn to knit, got educated on everything that crossed my way, cleaned my apartment like a maniac, was on here 24/7…everything is better than drinking.
Think about this: what would alcohol help you with? It doesn’t kick away the loneliness, it only numbs you! It makes you weak, kills your body and your soul. It makes everything worse.
I don’t know ONE person who said: Oh yeah, since I drink again everything’s turning out as I ever wanted.
Being alone is INCREDIBLY difficult, ESPECIALLY when you’re trying to stop harmful habits. What really helped me was going for walks. Going for walks is a GREAT perspective changer. I know it sounds dumb, but going for a walk is NEAT! Seriously, after a few minutes you forgot why you were squirrelly in the first place.
Here’s the other thing about being alone… It’s ok. You’re early in recovery (congratulations by the way) and you have a lot of healing to do. You need to focus on you. You need to take care of you, and truth be told, that’s probably all you’re capable of doing doing right now, and that’s ok too. Focusing your energy on someone else can affect your recovery chances. I don’t know if you go to meetings, but if you do, that is SOME social interaction.
Being alone sucks, I understand, but, use it as an opportunity to do you sober. Learn you sober.
Think about this too… If you’re not ok with you and not healthy, can you TRULY have a healthy relationship with another person?
I’m 504 days sober today. I’m still alone. And yes, it STILL sucks, but not NEARLY as bad as it did. It gets easier, and it gets easier because I’m healthy and have worked on me. It will get easier for you too if you stay sober. It really will.
Keep your chin up, kiddo. Even though you’re lonely, you’re not alone in your journey.
Seems in this alone time your not analyzing yourself and trying to build new habits instead your romanticizing the old ones. Set some goals that will make you better. Possibly new car,housing,go back to school, a hobby,etc… There are many things we can do to better ourself. What life do you want?.. to be a ritural drinker that lives a routine week in and week out or do you wanna to live a life you can actually control week in and week out? We have to find our weaknesses and strengths to work on bettering ourselves.
) to try out new things. It took getting outside my comfort zone.
Great to see you back and rocking those two weeks!
