Does anyone ever feel alone even though they are surrounded by people? I have this soul crushing feeling of loneliness even though physically there are people around. I have always felt that way like all of my friendships/relationships are superficial. I think that is one of the major reasons I fell into drinking heavily to stave off the feeling of being utterly alone in this world.
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I feel that way at times, like I am alone even when with family and friends. Even though I know it’s not true, I can’t make the feeling stop sometimes. Amazing how I can tell the brain what is real and what is not but still cannot stop the emotions. I’ve come up with some tricks that help. I try to focus on the moment or live in the present. Usually, when I get the alone feeling, my mind is wandering and worrying about the future. I tell myself that I cannot predict the future which helps. Also, I focus on the people I’m with and why I am grateful to have them in my life, especially my family. And, while I am bad about doing this, calling another recovering alcoholic usually makes me feel better.
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Absolutely!! Even with close family. But I can find safety in stopping my thought pattern and realizing I am not alone. There are thousands and thousands of people that feel just the same way. So coming here, perhaps going to a meeting will help. We are always here and at meetings if that works for you. The best thing is to do what you just did. Communication. It is a very important step in recovery. Keep up the good work and remember; you are never alone.
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Yeah I feel lonely.
Half of me died when my mate did, we did everything together. I miss that guy so much.
Got to just grow tho, specify what you are looking for, it’s ok if that changes… Think about how you can get what that is, what steps can you take? Write them down, try them out.
You might have to push your own boundaries.
I’ve joined a mountaineering club (shock!!!) I actually hate the whole groups thing, but it’s got to be tried, I’m pushing thru, trying to see positives, it may come good, I’m proud of myself for even getting this far.
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Yes, and that’s why I’ve joined three sobriety communities. I feel very connected and a great sense of belonging. It keeps me sober.
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Yes, I have lived my entire life feeling lonely and depressed. Mindfulness amd thought stopping helped, zoloft assisted in allowing the time to out these in place. Gave stability in my thought processing after a couple of months of serotonin intake.
I absolutely can relate to this. It’s even worse when you really don’t have anyone there. It’s a real numbness of feeling. My emotions go up and down but I always feel out of place where I truly feel people do not understand me and that I’m just so disillusioned with the world. It feels like a strange matrix really. I too felt the reason I decided to drink off and on was because of that and a lack of confidence and emptiness but I also realized that feeling increased with i did that and after it.
I’m glad I came here because reading others experiences has made me realize we actually can connect and try to move forward together. Please reach out to me to have one more friend that can understand your experience and for me to gain another so that I can stop feeling lost and see that I’m not alone.
To stop feeling alone some times, I take morning walks with my headphones and when it’s cold out. I really wanna go to the beach and sit on the sand and stare at the water to just meditate. If you’re ever in New York, let me know. I’m always up for that 
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Hi Shanyce, welcome to the forum! 
Keep checking in with us, it helps me a lot to stay focused on my sobriety, as well as beating the loneliness!
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Thank you for the welcome and I will definitely check in. I feel much better when I can talk to others who are going through something similar. I used to get so frustrated with others that would just wave it off as a get over it kind of thing but these kind of addictions and situations are very serious. I am going to take better care of myself and I’ll be here to help others do the same 
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I totally understand this feeling and there actually isnt anyone there. I have my son and support here.
Learning to live again through so many changes alone is difficult.
I log on every day, I don’t post everyday, but I do read every single day since 6+ months. There are tons of threads with information and support. Use the 
to search for certain topics you are interested in.
There is a daily check-in thread where people post to hold themselves accountable.
It’s good to read that you want to take care of yourself, I read somewhere a phrase that went something like: “if you’re not ready to invest in your health during your youth, be ready to invest in your sickness when your old”. That really stuck with me!
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That’s a very powerful quote. I always said to myself I’m still young I have time and now I am 29 feeling like I’ve wasted a lot of my life because I have a lot of goals I want to accomplish. I’m taking the step forward now and that’s what matters. Thank you for the tip in the search bar
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