I live in a one bedroom house with my father who sleeps on the couch. He’s 62 and likes to hoard stuff from second hand stores so the house very packed (except my room). Recently my sister whom we hadn’t had much to do with showed up at the house needing shelter. Leaving her husband and the religion that kept her apart from us. So now there are 3 adults living in a one bedroom packed house. I feeling so very stressed. I want her to feel safe and have her own space and father to also be comfortable. Just feel really overwhelmed due to the fact of the majority of the house work lands on my shoulders , feel claustrophobic, feel stressed. But I DONT feel like drinking so that’s a plus. Anyway thanks for hearing my rant.
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Thats really stressful! Sounds like a chore chart is in order 
set healthy boundaries. Youve got us. Rant away chica
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Youre always welcome to vent. That sounds like a very stressful situation honestly. Sounds very crowded and overwhelming.
Would chatting with ur dad and sister about how overwhelmed you feel help? It could open up a discussion about you getting some help with the house. Thats alot of work on u to manage the home with 3 adults living in it.
Praying things get sorted for u and that you can find some sense of calm.
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Yea … we are going to have to have a family meeting and yes chore chart haha:sweat_smile:. Honestly writing it out in hear really helped calm me. I think I’m probably more overwhelmed than I need to be. 
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Yay! Im glad that worked out! Hope that resolves some of ur overwhelmed feelings.
I get it tho lol i get overwhelmed very easily too and over stimulated when theres too much around me. Plus being sober makes things so much more intense. Glad ur feeling better
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Oh my goodness yes! Super over stimulated. Like my mind can’t function. I had my study with my sponsor tonight and she said that it’s normal to feel my feelings more intense since I quit drinking. I happy that I am able to get through without picking up. 
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You’re doing amazing! I can get overwhelmed easily, and would totally get overwhelmed under those conditions. What works best for me to manage it, ideally, is time and space to myself… 
You can’t easily get that right now, and sometimes (e.g., remote work travel situations) neither can I!
I love the chore chart idea! Would a self-care plan also help… Plan a time out for yourself everyday? Maybe walks outside by yourself? Headphones on for an hour in the house - podcast or tunes? Time in a coffee shop with a book? Or my personal favourite… hanging out talking sober with people who get me! 
Vent away. Your sobriety and your journey are inspiring, and all of our journeys are gifts that we share here 
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I to fell under the nick nack of second hand store idea
Slowly i began taking one thing out at a time. Got rid of most of my stuff but i get more. It’s a terrible cycle to fall in to
Try that. One thing out each time you walk out the door.
It might help with the claustrophobia
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