I am very happy being sober but some days I feel like something is missing or I just feel generally uneasy. My mental health disorders are under control, I have a sponsor, I work my steps, I fellowship, I’m in training to become a house manager and am peer house manager at my sober living and I also bring the message to the newcomer whenever possible. Maybe this will change once I finish my steps again or once I start sponsoring other women but for now it’s what I deal with from time to time. Any advice?
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Have you sat in this feeling to understand what or where it is coming from? Mindfulness can be a really helpful tool to recovery.
Any external stresses going on?
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Glad you’re here and reaching out, Riley! Have you bounced this off your sponsor?
I have found meditation or a stroll outside helps when I’m feeling a bit bound up in my brain.
Something missing like what? Any ideas on what it may be?
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Hey Riley, welcome to this beautiful place with some really great people. You are feeling uneasy, because something IS missing. Our DOC for years was the single most efficient way to make us feel good in any situation. Until it didn’t anymore and joy turned to sh*t. Sobriety is to find new ways to give us pleasure and joy in a serene and safe way. It does feel uncomfortable because like a toddler, we have to learn to do this. But we get better at it. And it sounds like you’ve already established some very important corner stones for sobriety. Have you picked up some hobbies or interests recently?
Looking forward to seeing you around.
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Hi Riley, nobody said it was always gonna be easy, right? For me sobriety hasnt cancelled out the ups and downs of life but brought about an awareness to know that when i feel uneasy i dont have to automatically reach for my doc instead i think about what it is in my life thats making me feel uneasy or bringing about a craving or whatever and do my best to address that the best i can 
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Hi riley welcome i get that feeling of missing something in recovery its like a relationship we view through rose tinted spectacles just lurking in the background, i find filling my time with new things helps and learning to live with things good or bad, and that feeling of missing does get smaller 
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Finish you program ,you seem to have everything in place .look forward to your goals and helping others wish you well
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Welcome to the forum! I completely get what ur saying. I felt this way also when I was fairly new to recovery. I think its completely normal to feel like something is missing because… well it is. We have removed our addiction from our lives and since we are sooo accustomed to having it there, the sudden removal of it can feel like something is missing and create that uneasiness. The great thing tho is that this feeling doesnt last forever (at least for me it didnt). I dont feel like something is missing anymore. My life is now so full being clean and sober that the emptiness I once felt, has been filled with other things. Im positive that this will happen for u too 
Sounds like ur doing all the right things tho for ur recovery. You sound very involved in ur recovery and thats so great to read!
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