First day and already friends came over with alcohol and the party favour of my choice and saying no has been really hard but im fighting the urges any suggestions on something to do to occupy my mind while people are over drinking ?
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First of all, good for you on making the decision. Do you have roomies that invited friends over or are they there to see you specifically? If you can physically remove yourself from the area that might help, but that might be hard to do if they’re there specifically to see you. Do your friends know that you’re quitting?
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Yes I told them when they got here my boyfriend is 7 days solber today and they came for my brother in law also so that why I assumed they stayed just hard because they did it rate in front of me knowing I’m trying not to I found I ate alot of food today and snacks
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Welcome Sarah. Hanging around with drinking buddies early in sobriety is asking for trouble. I avoided all alcohol related events for the first 60 days. I would suggest asking your friends to do sober activities until you get your bearings and avoid alcohol all together. Why be tempted? If they’re true friends, they’ll support you.
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Thankyou I agree I am about to take my pizza to my room and relax with some netflix to avoid temptations it suvks because my boyfriend has no temptation he very strong minded and has total self control
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Good for you. I know it’s really hard to walk away but you’re doing the right thing. You’ll be thankful tomorrow. Enjoy your pizza and listen to some music or watch a movie.
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Use his strength and resolve to stay on course! You won’t regret it and will feel so much better!
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Man… that’s just not right. Especially since they know you guys are trying to sober up. I know it’s not fair that you would have to shut yourself up in your room, but if that’s how you can get away from it, then I’d suggest it. Put some headphones in and listen to some music or watch something. If you can go for a walk, that can help. Snacking a lot at first happens. Especially cravings for sweets. You can do this. Welcome to the forum and I hope you stick around so that we can be a support for you.
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Good for you! I’m not sure what your story looks like, but I always find it good to remind myself that it’s important to focus on your last drink/use, not your first. Otherwise put, focus on the troubles that drinking/use brought into your life instead of joyously reflecting on the early drinking/using days when it was more “fun” and not yet destructive. For us, it’s not just walking into the bar and having one or two, it’s setting our lives, our happiness, on the bar as a price. Good on you for pizza and Netflix!
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Thankyou everyone I find this app might be making this big change in my life a little easier I was drinking and using for over 10 years
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So I spoke to my girlfriend and her man and said that I wasent mad but I was having a hard time so I was going upstairs they both agreed not to bring anything here anymore and asked if I wanted them to come over with the kids tomorrow so all of our kids can get together and that we would have a solber day I’m excited but at same time these are party friends we never had a solber hang out in the past 3 years ok hanging out…
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Good for you! That’s excellent! Maybe have some delicious food and some games to play to fill the void of alcohol?
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For sure I have a pretty big pool with a nice deck we just build this summer plus I dont go back to work until monday BUT HERE IS TH CATCH my 31st birthday is next tuesday so deciding to this today was what worried me but I figured what better way to bring in a new age for myself being solber on august 4th hasent happened since I was pregnant for my son 9 years ago
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It’s a habit and it’s a bad habit. Drinking isn’t a necessity to having a good time. If you think about what it actually does to our body, mind and spirit it is really a no brainer.
It’s hard but it makes you stronger each time you defeat the urge. Your son will see a truly happy mom…
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I have more control over drinking then I do with other things drinking is less of an worry for myself I’m more concerned about my other habit and as far as im concerned it makes me someone I’m not but I’m thankful for everyone on here for the past two hours it was the hardest and without the support I’m not sure if I would of been able to stay so strong so thankyou everyone
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Happy birthday next Tuesday! Always good to see another Leo around here 
I think you’re making a fabulous decision for yourself. You can do this. You’re worth it.
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