Hi folks. This is my first time posting here. I’m not sober yet, though I have numerous attempts behind me. I simply can’t get the decision to stick, which means I’m not fully committed. Alcohol has become a joy stealer in my life. I have a beautiful family and a job I love, and I know alcohol makes me less than my best and I can’t show up in the same way when I’m drinking. My booze of choice is wine, and if the bottle gets opened it will be finished. I don’t get ‘drunk’ in a way most people would notice but the effects in my system suck. I don’t get hangover headaches, but I do feel so sad. I do not know how to break the cycle on my own. I don’t drink daily, but when I do I always drink more than I intend… I’ve lost my ability to control it. Support + advice welcome. Thanks!
Welcome to the community! I can relate.
Once I finally made the decision to quit, life got better. Its not easy, especially at first, but I’m so much happier sober.
This community is very welcoming. Spend time on here and you’ll get to know people and have a place to “go” when you need extra support. There’s alot of fun threads on here as well.
You got this!
I’m so glad you’re here! I have struggled over the past 10 years to become sober. I am on day 22 right now and this is the third long stretch in over 10 years. I’ve made it 24 days before but I relapsed and this time it feels different. The more that you try and the longer stretches that you have the easier it eventually becomes. But you can’t think that far ahead!! Honestly that’s why they say one day at a time… And sometimes it’s literally just this one minute at a time. Learning the reasons that I drink have been instrumental in my recovery. These are just a few things I’ve posted on my fridge to remind me…
Mainly my triggers are exhaustion and also hunger… But honestly sometimes I use alcohol when I started to feel good again because I thought “okay hey great I feel good, I can drink”. So the other thing that’s really helped me is to admit that I am an alcoholic and I cannot have one sip of alcohol. Saying that out loud really helped me. “I am an alcoholic”. It just makes me realize that really it’s not my fault- I mean I have to make decisions ultimately, but it is a condition I have that does not allow me to drink responsibly so I just need to not drink at all and that’s ok. I’m not a horrible person just because I am an alcoholic. Also reaching out here when I’m struggling really helps so I hope that you continue to do that and to read more because there’s a lot of support and advice here
I have the firm conviction that nobody can do it on their own. That’s why we’re here together. So you’ve come to the right place Anne!
What you tell sounds so familiar. You know, “normal” drinkers don’t need to control their drinking. They simply do. So stating you have a problem controlling it to me says enough. I tried to control my drinking. For quite a while. Ended up suicidal. Till I quit and found this place.
So welcome! Together we can do this and the more the better and stronger we are. Wishing you all success in your journey lady.
Red wine was my DOC. Welcome to TS! Have you checked out Annie Grace This Naked Mind? She also has a 30 day challenge. Learning and educating yourself on alcohol and the marketing behind is was very helpful. Good for you for noticing there is a problem. It will only get worse.
Howdy dosnt matter what you drink if its giving you problems then maybe a meeting might help . as mentioned a 30 day challenge might get you started on the road wish you well
Welcome! Coming here is a great first step. Be active, it will help.
Welcome, Anne. Congratulation on getting started. This is a great group. I’ve learned so much. There’s a lot of support here. It’s worth the effort. I’m already feeling so much better.
Welcome! Alcoholic over here too and used to be quite depressed and anxious often.
I’m 60+ days sober and while I still have moods and overwhelming feelings I no longer feel just overwhelmingly sad. I contribute this to taking the depressant that is alcohol out of my life. I’m glad you are here. Let us know what you need.