First sober party 🙈

[Englishd]

Just remember: No. Is a complete sentence. You shouldn’t have to explain yourself to anyone. If they keep insisting that you drink you can always ask. “Sure I’ll take a beer, but first, would you like some heroin?”

[Allicat388]

This is so true. I’ve finally realized I can just say “no”. I don’t need to give reasons or excuses if I don’t want to. A colleague asked me yesterday if I was going to celebrate my 90 days with a blackout bender. Wtf? You can’t fix stupid sometimes.

[Englishd]

In that case I think “fuck you” is also a complete sentence.

Side note: one my one year I publicly (Facebook) opened up about my addiction. I received numerous calls from old friends to wish me well. One guy made a point to tell me that next time I’m back in Pittsburgh that they are all willing to do sober things so I can be included. They are fairly big drinkers, but not of the alcoholic variety. For me transparency was the best method.

[Ashleigh]

Haha very good, although if I say “fuck you” to my fiances mum, might cause me a bit of trouble

But totally, transparency is key. I don’t wanna lie about stuff, but I don’t wanna go into “I’m an alcoholic” either… I’ll probably just say I’ve quit “for a while”. Avoid prodding.

Plus, your friends sound amazing x

[siand]

@TeamMeyer here’s another one

[Poetry_lover]

I went to my first party sober on Friday and I found literally no one noticed! I didn’t even have to say anything, I just kept topping up my glass with apple juice. People kept offering to top me up with prosecco and I just kept saying I already had one - it saves the awkward conversations people seem to want when you say you’re not drinking! Hope you have a lovely time at the party and congratulations on your engagement

[Poetry_lover]

Another thing I did was fully immerse myself in sober benefits articles and YouTube videos before the party. I wanted to make sure my mindset was fully there so that I wouldn’t be tempted at all, i literally lay in bed every night watching videos about how great sobriety is

[Samsara]

I can’ t add anything to all the amazinh advices… but isn’ t it SO SAD that alcohol is the only drug that you need to justify to others that you don’t take it!!
This annoyes me so much!
We are brainwashed!
Smoke a joint at the party and everybody will look horrified. Put a line of coke on the table and you get kicked out!.
But if you don" t fill your body with glasses of poisson you are the outcast. Im on antibiotics, im driving… i personally think every time you lie about your wonderfull brave sobriety your unconsious mind takes not its a negative thing.
I would not explain ( no thanks!) Or say i like my mornings nice and energetic
No one will notice, which is actually a shame!
Go have fun and you will still look amazing in that train back ánd you will have a big smile the next morning. X

[Poetry_lover]

I completely agree, it’s crazy we have to justify our healthy life choices! So true, you feel so much better on your way home with lovely memories of the evenings… Rather than the previous me having to be bundled into a taxi and not knowing how I got home so freaking out all day the next day!

[George]

totally agree