Hello! I am here because I realize I need a change in my life and don’t know where to start.
I’ve been sober curious for years but never knew how to do it. I know if I looked for resources I would find them but I’ve always been too embarrassed to ask for help.
I have had a binge drinking problem for a while, where I pick the most convenient day of the week to get intoxicated and every time I feel ashamed. I just don’t want to do it anymore. I’m scared of making a life long commitment to sobriety but I know I need a reset.
I’m sick of my family having to see me like this. I want to be that person who can just have one drink and be done… just walk away.
Welcome!! I can definitely understand the shame and guilt involved in binge drinking, that was me starting from when I was a teen. I always was looking for that magic combination that would allow me to have a drink or two and that was it. And you know, sometimes I could, but most times one led to many more and all that entailed…shame, guilt, bad decisions, bad things happening to me, etc. The thing I realized over time was there was no magical equation that was going to allow drinking to be a healthy and fun part of my life. That just wasn’t something available to me. So I had to let that fantasy go and embrace what was available to me…sobriety. I didn’t get to that realization for quite some time and there was a lot of heartache and pain along the way, but still it was my favorite decision of my life so far, the one I am most proud of.
Idk if you like to read, but This Naked Mind by Annie Grace was a real game changer for me. So was Quit Like A Woman by Holly Whitaker…not all of it resonated, but the parts that did really stuck and helped me build a bridge into my new sober life. What else really helped was being in community, I tried out quite a few over the years, and this community became home for me. There is so much collective wisdom, experience and kind people who have been on the same road…good and bad. It is a safe place to turn when needed and a wealth of info and inspiration.
I hope you will stick around and share your journey with us, it helps to have friends who get it.
Wishing you all the best and hope to see you around, Sassy
I can relate to this very much. The one thing I’ve learned over the years is that I’m not someone that can have one drink and walk away. I will never be able to be that person, because it’s not truly who I am.
Sobriety is a journey on its own with really good and some hard lessons. For me I had to learn that I need to interact with like minded people daily.
I like attending certain AA meetings. If you want to give one a try, here is the Zoom link to one of my favourites at 11:30 EST.
Attached below is the link for all the meetings. They happen 24/7 and you can find one anytime.
Welcome @Rach2026 so glad you found us and posted.
I started my journey sober curious as forever sober seemed daunting. But i just got curious. I highly recommend a free 30 day alcohol experiment by annie grace. If you google it you will find it. You learn the science and habits/emotions around your drinking.
I did a month then celebrated with a binge. But ultimately i liked how i felt after 30 days sober and after a head full of knowledge from annie grace i made another attempt. In about 15 days i decided i wanted to see how long i could go, not forever, just one day at a time. The benefits multiple by the month. Im now close to 4 full years and have a happiness ive never known.
I wish you well on your journey of exploration. Highly recommend annine grace 30 day alcohol experiment
I appreciate the kind words! Congratulations on almost 4 years!
I started reading this naked body by her and it’s been eye opening in a sense that it made me realize the patterns of my drinking is not atypical and really helped me understand a new way of looking at sobriety. Before I always felt like it’s this big scary thing and your whole life is supposed to be up-rooted.
I am day 2 of my 30 day journey and I haven’t yet decided where I want that journey to lead me. I think I’m just gonna cross that bridge when I get there. I think my main goal this month is to learn new coping skills to manage cravings when the “itch” comes around.
I DO know that I’m not the kind of person who can have just a couple drinks so I understand I have a problem