3 days Sober
My friends have just invited me to the bar, Last time I was at the bar I fell off of a table and i was kicked out for drinking too much … this was not the first time.
They simply tell me, Just don’t drink, and I feel like its so much harder than that! Just to be around that atmosphere again is going to be tempting. But I know I’m strong and I am able to say no.
I just need an opinion ! Should I go to the bar and test myself or should I stay home and wait until Ive been sober for a bit longer before jumping back … if I should ever go back ? 
all help and advice is greatly appreciated!!
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It’s way to early for this type of temptation. No matter how strongly you feel that you can handle it. Instead of going to a bar with them invite them to do a non drinking activity with you.
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If you feel that you are not ready u should say No and do something else that is more fun. 3 days sober might to early. My opinion. Choose the right thing for yourself and not because others. Be your own boss
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If I could go back and talk to my 18 year old self, I would tell her to save herself the lifetime of shameful drunken acts and disengage from the environment and people who enable those behaviors…take a different road, there are many that lead to happiness and fulfillment but alcohol will always lead to guilt and shame and hopelessness! I wish u strength and clarity as u make ur decision.
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I agree thats its too early I am a month in and its still difficult for me…but if you decide to go open this app and look at your milestones and convince yourself to stay strong…4 more days then you are a week sober…if you drink juice or cola or whatever throw in some ice and when there is ice left in your glass eat the ice before ordering another drink because we drink cooldrink much faster than alcohol then you wont feel that your glass is empty while theirs are still full!!! That worked for me by the way hehehe
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Don’t go unless you’re ultra sure of your decision not to drink
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Thank you everyone !!I decided I’m going to stay home until I’m ready
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I would wait, personally. And just take it one day at at time and don’t go to the bars. Last time I went to the bars and told myself I wouldn’t drink, I woke up on a friend’s couch after blacking out after drinking 10+ shots. For me personally, I can’t just not drink, especially if someone offers the buy me a drink. I can’t have just one drink. That’s just me personally because I’m an addict and have ended up in the hospital multiple times for alcohol poisoning.
I would wait and go with at least one other person that is staying sober, too. Being the only sober one isn’t very fun.
Good luck!
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Make the choice to change. Your here because your after a different result then what you’ve experienced. Different results take different actions. I’m happy for you, for making the right decision.
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The last part you wrote are not a bad idea @Reese .