I’m heavily struggling these last few days, I’m upset constantly. My relationship of 5 years ended about two months ago and that’s when I started feeling myself spiral again due to sadness and recently I’ve decided to cut out the alcohol to lead a happier life. It caused some issues between us on top of other issues im working on fixing. Does the pain of the heart break go away? Or do we just learn to live with it. I’m hoping in time we both heal and can speak again and maybe see if we can work it out but I know that sounds crazy at this point.
I was married 13 years when i left my wife or she had enough truth be told wasnt happy but stayed sober married again now 29 years this july life goes on im sure what ever is planed for your future it will happen wish you well
Time heals or at least makes the pain leave us. I’ve had multiple year relationships end and at the time, it was truly devastating. Now, looking back, I’m honestly grateful that I’m no longer with those people. You will have a day when you look back at this time and it just simply doesn’t matter anymore.
Acceptance and forgiveness (to yourself) will allow you to heal. Maybe someday you will end up together again, but it’s crucial that you find a path you can walk alone and be happy/ content. Removing alcohol will help tremendously. I’m sorry you’re hurting, i wish the best for you.
Sorry to hear you’re going through such a sad and hard time at the moment.
I think it’s difficult to say with heartbreak as there’s so many variables, depending on circumstances, personalities and what we do or don’t do to try and heal…
Heartbreak really sux and can be so painful. Sometimes healing can take weeks, sometimes it can take years. But I am a firm believer that everything happens for a reason… and at the moment, I would try and focus only on the now and not worry or preoccupy myself about the future and it’s possibilities.
When my last relationship ended and I subsequently also chose to stop drinking, it took a couple of years to really recover from my relationship. I focused on rediscovering and learning to love me .
I put myself first, nurtured and took care of me, and threw myself into recovery by finding supports and people who lifted me up.
I was once told to treat myself gently, as i would a best friend. Be kind to yourself, do for you what makes you feel good (as long as it doesn’t involve drinking) and give it time. Take care of yourself and keep coming back, we’re a pretty cool bunch to hang with and reach out to
I am sorry you are hurting and glad you are here and working on sobriety and a healthier you.
In my experience, yes, the pain of heartbreak goes away. I have had 3 relationships that were each 5 years or so long end over my life and while each ending was extremely painful for a period of time…eventually it wasn’t anymore and they were simply someone I used to have a closer relationship with. We can and do heal from relationships.
It helps to cope I think by focusing on you. Making healthy changes…like working on sobriety, healthier eating, finding things that make your heart and brain happy…sunshine, walks in nature, yoga, bicycling…looking for ways to take care of YOU.
Sorry to hear about your breakup. Processing the feelings takes time. Give yourself time to grieve. Living sober helps to cope with the emotions. At least it helps me. My breakup and divorce were last year and it will take a lot of time for me to recover from it. I go to therapy, not only because of this issue, I have to deal with a lot of other struggles too, and therapy helps me to focus on myself and develop healthy coping strategies and healthy boundaries. Working on myself is essential for me, I read and journal a lot. Do what helps you and also try things out of your comfort zone, even when it’s only little things like taking the bike instead of the car or having a vegan day per week (this are examples I do). Wish you all the best.
In my experience yes its dreadful at the time but does get better, ive had 3 five(ish) year long relationships n each break up felt like the end of the world but it wasnt…never forget that things happen for a reason and often the hardest times in our lives end up being the best thing that could have happened to us in the end, my love to you
