I struggle to find the words for this question and it’s asked everyday on this forum . I can only speak my experience strength and hope with people. I no longer wanted to pick up my addiction s when I started learning to love myself love others and love living .we all have to reach our own rock bottom that was when I was mentally and spiritually bankrupt. I knew I hated alcohol I knew I hated drugs and I knew I hated myself and hated the way I treated others that tread on my using . And at my rock bottom I hated everyone from the shop assistant to the person walking in front of me down the street . No one was doing things my way and I was living in complete selfish insanity .when I picked up a programme of recovery I no longer wanted to be surviving , broke everyday stinking everyday suffering everyday and living in fear and the blackout s I wanted to live . To get true sobriety and to not want to pick up a mind altering substance takes all of your soul to want it ,absolute surrender and positivity towards your new found journey ,I left my self pity train at the door . ,thinking of others not yourself and knowing your worth saving is what makes you not hurt yourself anymore. When I picked up and started working my programme and stayed with people who are sober and got rid of anything that was associated with using I didn’t WANT or CRAVE to drink or use drugs anymore .I haven’t for two months ,and many haven’t for two years ten years and beyond .if I keep working this EVERYDAY I believe I can recover . Some of us need detoxing in the beginning to do this but IMO everyone who’s an addict needs sober people and a programme of recovery without it we’re self will run riot . When i reached my rock bottom and i realised i can’t EVER drink and use like non addict s was when I stopped romanticising it and that was when I no longer WANTED it anymore. Now I’ve started to recover 
my day to day life now is beyond all I ever thought I was capable of two months ago 
Hope this helps someone
Thanks for sharing 
I hated “ME”. I was told recently not to get too confident. Personally I have no cravings or triggers that make me want to drink and go back to my miserable life. I think I am fortunate that I do not relate drinking to a GOOD TIME. I was beyond depressed and suicidal. Antidepressants and Tequila are not a good combination. Free from all that and have AA Meetings/Group and all here at Talking Sober to thank. A support system to stay connected is the answer to remaining sober.
Thank you @19801 for you wise words.
Thank you for your share @tailee17 , my sponsors reminded me also that I must not get too confidant ,my ego and self confidence must not get in the way of my need to work on my recovery everyday . Coming on here with my friends on this journey is like a meeting between meetings and I love seeing the joy and journey of other peoples lives and also giving back to the people struggling . I do worry I’m a tad harsh sometimes but ……