I’m nearing my 90 day mark and have had minimum urges, however the loneliness is settling in. Its true that you really find out who was truly there for you and yes it makes me sad at times, but feel if i were to try to hang out or be around them i would relapse and i am trying so hard. I work 7 days a week just so i stay busy and sober but am scared im heading into a depression from isolating myself from everyone and have only went to another form of addiction being a work aholic. Does anyone else feel like this, i dont know if i am doing the right moves to stay sober and drug free. Isolating equals loveliness 
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First I wanna say congratulations on your sobriety time I know it’s not easy but it’s worth it. To be honest I had to cut a lot of people out of my life, block some numbers and so forth. Most of the people that were in my life didn’t care about my life. They weren’t really friends because realistically me getting better Wasn’t beneficial to them. Or it was risky to be around people actively using or drinking. Since actually committing to Alcoholics Anonymous And going to meetings this time around I’m forming new friendships with people who actually care and can help. I’ve been able to keep a few friendships from the past but very few. Not sure what your Drug of choice is but I Would suggest getting involved with either AA, NA, Or smart recovery. There might be some other programs I’m forgetting about but not only will you meet like-minded people but it’ll help you with your recovery in so many ways. Working is good. But in my experience working alone as far as jobs only got me so far and eventually that wasn’t enough. Either way you’re reaching out which is really good. Just don’t forget why you got sober in the first place. And don’t let anybody else drag you down or try to bring you back To that lifestyle. Nothing good comes of it
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Thank you for your words of encouragement, i really think i needed this today. I am in a remote area so meetings are not happening sround here sadly. I will look for some in the nearest town, however i have always been scared of people hearing about my problems and using them against me. Small town problems. Either ot i really do apprecate your words of encouragement, so thank you for reaching out.
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Workaholism is definitely a thing - I haven’t battled that one specifically but others in my SA group have and it is real.
The opposite of addiction is healthy connection with other people. There’s something in addiction that keeps us isolated, and finding healthy connection helps to cure that.
Whatever happens next, you are definitely not alone. Don’t give up, keep reaching out and searching 
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I also feel some like this. I just have 2 weeks avoiding the cannabis however I started to smoke Cigarrette.Every of my friends in my college are heavy users of Ciggarrettes and weed as I used, Also my coworkers. I was laid Off this week for non relates reasons but now I feel a Lot of Anxiety, Im strugling to find a work that allow me to Study and I haven’t told to anyone on my family that I’m Unemployed right now, I dont want to dissapoint them and that Makes me feel alone, Also I can’t speak with my friends about because they can’t share my wish to stop smoking weed or cigarrette and they can’t understand Why I’m trying to stop it, so now I’m feeling like stuck changing one addiction (weed) for Another (cigarrette) to Overcome… but I feel like this Is wrong, like if I’m not really making a diference
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Definitely hard and an real issue of trading one addiction with another, realizing that it is wrong is an important step. Im sorry you are going through alot right now, but that is one of things that I’ve learned is it will get better, just dont give up. You have a lot on your plate right now, but hard work pays off and i highly doubt your family could ever be disappointed in you as you sound like an amazingl person, im rooting for you ! If anyone can overcome this small obstacle…you can !