Cannot stop crying… I literally cannot catch up on housework it’s so hot… I’d do it at night time but I go to bed early so I’m not triggered… I have yelled and cured so much today. The baby is miserable … teething plus heat… My daughter is sick super fever , everytime I do something I’m so sweaty I drop shit. I’ve been in the house for days with the kids. I wanna drink n party so bad… I wanna call dumb ass baby daddy and just scream at him , but theres no fkn point. Theres no helping hand coming to give me a break or help in anyway it is so overwhelming sometimes … I understand why I have wanted to escape all my life because I’ve never had anyone stay and help me threw any major shit in my life , I have never felt safe … that’s why I always settle and have aloud abuse it’s a verious cycle and I’m heartbroken I am yelling and crying but it either that or i do a eight ball and buy a bottle of whiskey and the cycle never ends
It may not feel like it, but you’re winning the day just by posting this. We aren’t meant to struggle alone.
And I empathize with you regarding the feeling of overwhelm amplified by heat. Sounds like you have a lot of things stacked against you today but you can get through it. Remember, you’ve had good days in the past. There are many more ahead, just don’t pick up and the frequency of the good days will gradually start to outnumber the “bad” … before long, you’ll view “bad” days as the ones you got through and are now stronger for.
At the end of the day your doing it for you and your kids that’s what’s important emotions are normal we are human if you need to talk I’m here or the group
Yeah, the heat sucks ( heat wave + humidity on the east coast of the states). I feel your, pain 2 of my 3 kids caught a nasty virus from daycare with the accompanying fever, vomiting, etc., etc. It’s overwhelming, I agree. Just imagine the sense of accomplishment that will come with come with looking back at this day.
We know this stress can be relieved rather quickly, but at what cost? Breaking habits and adapting come with soberiety.
You’re a great Mom. Your strengths as well as your weaknesses will be emulated by your children. You are making the right choices.
I’d like to start with I’m sorry you’re feeling overwhelmed and it’s going to be OK. At times of stress and trials we don’t like to hear certain things or words of encouragement because we feel misunderstood or that people cannot relate to how we are feeling. Well I would like to tell you I am a single mother of a 18-year-old daughter and a six year old daughter with high functioning autism I have been doing the salon for eight years I do not get help from any family members nor do either of their fathers help me it can be extremely overwhelming With chaos and confusion feeling like you can never get ahead like every where are you turn everyone that has some type of peace or success has all this help. I promise you don’t give up this will make you the strongest woman you could ever imagine to be your children will see that no matter what happens in life that you can overcome all the dark and scary situation they will look up to you and see a warrior not a failure. Do you not give up on your sobriety that’s like a special thing that only you can control that is the biggest power in your pocket right now nobody can take that from you keep pushing forward tomorrow will be a new day I went from having everything that you could ever dream of to nothing but just me and my kids overnight you are not alone out there if you need anyone to talk to you can message me I hope this gave you some words of encouragement try seeking out your higher power remember whatever you tell yourself whatever you’re listening to the people you surround yourself with is the energy that you’re going to have. God bless I’m praying for you
This isn’t just you, we all have overwhelming days where we feel like life is caving in on us. Don’t get coked out and drunk, that won’t solve anything, it will just make shit spiral more out of control. I can bet by later tonight you will feel calmer and glad you didn’t use. Stay strong push through shitty days, they don’t last forever
Thank you so much for sharing …
It does help knowing your not alone…
Everywhere I look people have help , I’ve been out on my own since 16 , 3 kids not a sole in sight. I get super down on my self because I never wanted my kids to see me overwhelmed or sad but I realized I am not a robot I’m human and my kids need to see reality nothing crazy mind you but it’s ok to curse and cry while mopping the floors listening to 2pac you know lol.
I just wanna say pat your self on the back, cause your doing a amazing job. Thank you for you kind words.
Baby Girl cry till you cannot cry anymore. There is so much therapetic value in crying. No one has ever died from crying that I know of. When you cry amazing things happen to your brain (neurons) you heart and soul. We crack when we cry and then the light can come in. I was a single parent at one time to 4 kids, poor (bad housing no air), no support. You in your heart know what to do, you got this, keep it simple maybe cold shower. put ice cubes on your neck, carry a cold wet cloth and wipe down repeatedly, stand in front of the refrig for short periods of time? You got this. Like my sponsor would say this to shall pass like gas. Some days i hated her lol.
I just love your energy and words my soul needed every word of that
Thank you
Holy f 4 kids omg
Wow how did you get threw that time doing it all alone?hats off to you
Alcohol was not a good birth control lmao. In all honesty looking back it was not me it was one hell of a higher power I call God. Because if I relied on my own violition i would have failed? Some days were an hour or even minutes at a time. Just know that even minutes and hours add up every day. And as my sponsor from hell would say " you are thawing out, give it time
I feel like I am able to recognize that I’m learning healthy coping mechanisms
I’m proud of myself for reaching out and making connections and learning to proper express what I’m thinking into words
Trying to learn patience for myself and others
Also wanting to be kind and strong at the same time.
