I find it personally hard behind gay and going to meetings. I tend to be very head strong person to person. It’s Un comfortable being judged tough.
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Have you tried SMART recovery?
They have online meetings too…
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Not sure where you are from but there are LGBT meetings here in San Diego. Not sure if that helps you.
Also, I said in a comment earlier that there are a lot of things in the rooms of AA, but judgement is not one of them. I have a few gay friends in AA. While I can’t speak for what it’s like for them in AA, they do go on the reg. And they are sober.
Best wishes pal. Keep coming back:)
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Hey! I’m gay and the first AA meeting I went to was an LGBT one. Most people there aren’t gay though, they just want a meeting.
I’m sorry you’re feeling judged, that’s not cool. There should be no judgement there, only support with the primary purpose.
If AA works for you otherwise, it’s worth a search online for an LGBT friendly one.
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I’m gay and have felt a few judgments from ppl but I keep my head up and realize that I’m going for me to stay sober and to reach my higher power so whatever the haters think they can kiss my ass lol.
I personally don’t try the LGBT meetings cause I fear I will be focusing on checking out the chicks in the room instead of listening to what ppl are sharing.
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over the years ive spoke at a few gay meetings found them warm and friendly .wish you well
The majority of friends in AA are LGBTQ or allies. If they ever feel uncomfortable at a meeting they haven’t told me. They tend to get more support in AA than in the outside world
I’ve never actually made it to a meeting, but when I think about it I always think about going to the LGBTQ ones. Then I immediately discard the idea for the exact reason you said. I tend to feel a bit lonely sometimes and I know how I operate. I would be hoping to meet someone, either there or through someone I meet there. And I check out chicks like it’s my job sometimes.
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You both have over a year so as long as you aren’t going after newcomers it’s ok to window shop, or even buy lol
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Says YOU! 
If I got into a relationship right now I’m fairly certain my sobriety would tank. I have a horrible problem with putting other people first and ignoring my own needs. And I’m a serial monogamist so I’m not really good with “fiends with benefits,” unless I feel superior to the other person which is a terrible way to be.
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Yeah, then don’t do that lol. But if I find out people are being judgy toward my gay brethren I’ll come kick some ass.
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It’s great you know all of that about yourself! There was a woman in my meeting this week that said that it took her years to have a grip on her sobriety, every path is different! Made sense to me, timelines are good guides but it really varies for us all.
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To me, that’s the beauty of AA. The magical mix of all walks of life, in the same space, with the same purpose. The biker helping the banker…the unlikely friendships, pearls of wisdom & light bulb moments from those you’d least expect. It’s where I learned tolerance, patience, acceptance & to see the soul of a person vs. their color, sex, age or occupation.
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