I have 97 days killing it at work i took a few months with the support from my brother stopped working piled up debt.
I rent one of his houses 2400 a month so i was up to 7400 before i went back to work…
I have been giving him on average 850 to a 1000 cash a week until im caught up so basically i cover back rent 1 month full and 3/4 of the other month pretty damn good.
Last night he lost it cause he saw a post on facebook of me with a new carhart work coat. He said it pisses him off i bought that when owing him money…needless to aay i give him 80 percent of my pay a week. It made me feel like dirt. He threatned to evict me ect when ive been doinh so good.
It was the fiest time i thought about using in the last month . He supported me wanted me to do better for ne get right in the head take care of myself before working again. I did that but now he is doing this.
Good for you hun!!! Sounds like you are taking care of you and your responsibilities.
Remember everyone is entitled to a bad day or even to let of some steam…
He may have misdirected his “blow up” and you could have caught the shit end of the stick…
Give it a chance to cool down and dont beat yourself up!! He will come to his sences. Please dont let his bad moment take away all you have accomplished. Your sobriety comes first hun!!!
I really appreciate it. I was on a 18 year bender and i tried at xmas last year went to a detox and rehab flor 45 days came home best friend died and i did a tiny line and died. Came to and i heard my daugher 5 year old say is daddy dead… from that moment on i said thats it. This time i really feel like its the one
I quit everything this time drinking and all and i am more motivated and focused and its been rewarding
If this is your agreement, then what you do with the other 20% is none of his business. If this isn’t your agreement, then it should be. You have needs and you should be able to fulfill those needs without fear of repercussions.
If he agrees to that arrangement, then he needs to mind his business, as long as you’re keeping up your end.
That’s what I would do, make an agreement as to how much you pay back per week/month.
Gotta say it sounds like you’re really and absolutely slaying rn my friend.
You’re paying back your debt to your brother at enormous speed on top of maintaining sobriety and getting back into the work life.
The fact that you’re still owing him has nothing to do w fulfilling other needs of yours, like food shelter and clothing. He needs to back off. Unless you’re violating any agreement that you guys have made on how much you’re commited to paying back a month (and for the record I think 80% of your pay is really really high), you’re perfectly within your rights getting yourself a new coat and posting it on FB.
The threats of eviction are completely out of line. If I was you I would calmly state my rights and avoid furhter contact until the rent is paid back, you don’t need his bs.
Keep doing what you’re doing my friend cos it seems to be working !
Wanna share how you got to 97 days btw? Give some inspiration to ppl here?
