While i am doing this for myself, im also doing this to be a better role model for my little brother, who has only just turned 24 and is severely struggling with addiction. He drinks a minimum of 10 nips a day. I am so worried about him it keeps me up at night. Last week, i was struggling with my mental health, and got wasted with him. The next day, i felt so much shame and guilt. The anxiety lasted for 2 days. Intense, horrible guilt. On Friday, April 11th, i decided that i need to change, not only for myself, but to show my brother that we dont need alcohol. He and i have been through a lot. Ive been trying to tell my parents for years that he has a problem but no one listened to me. Now that ive freaked out on them and told them how much alcohol hes consuming, my mother is finally concerned. However, not concerned enough to help him STILL. She said to me, the daughter, ālet me know what i need to do to helpā. I DONT KNOW? MAYBE TAKE CONTROL? YOURE THE PARENT! WHY ARE YOU DEFERING TO ME! Ive always had to be the parent for my brothers. My parents are pathetic. Sorry for rambling.
welcome!
thereās a thread about loved ones and addiction. good shares there. you are not alone 
Welcome YM! Good for you for being a positive role model.
Maybe consider Al anon for you and your parents. Alcoholism is a family disease, so everyone can benefit from learning about it and how to help your brother.
Welcome @Ym1573
I relate to your situation. My little sister is addicted to weed, cigarettes and drinks daily. It breaks my heart. Whilst she is highly functioning, it still concerns me deeply, and I too stay awake at night worrying. Her partner was the same, thankfully he stopped drinking last year (7 months ago) but he still smokes weed and vapes. My sister does not drink excessively, but has at least two drinks each day (after work) and a few more on weekends. Very rarely to the point of ādrunkā, but alcohol is a focus of her free time and her ability to ārelaxā or āhave funā.
I always hoped that by becoming sober myself that might inspire her to do the same. Unfortunately, it hasnāt - yet. But now that her partner is sober from alcohol too, I think that will have a good impact on her (hopefully). My parents are so frustrating, because they canāt seem to see the issue, or, in fact, they ignore/deny it. They donāt want to face it. They donāt want to upset her by saying anything. But she has two kids, so I wish she would stop with all the substances and try life sober.
Iāve learned to accept the fact that I cannot control her. Only myself. I can lead by example and hope to inspire and motivate her. But, ultimately, she has to want to stop and make that decision for herself. Itās heartbreaking, I know, cause I worry that she wonāt 
But, I will continue to live my life sober and I know thatās the best thing I can do for myself and my family. And I will always be there for my sister, ready to support her in any way 
Welcome! Getting sober is hard but worth it. Iām happy your doing it for you.
Your brother might or might not follow. Itās entirely up to him.
I was almost certain I could influence my husband to be sober. After 1 year, I have not. He simply doesnāt want to.
But I do want to be sober, so I do it for me.
You can do this. Iām glad youāre here.
Maybe concentrate on your sobriety , if your brother wants to get sober then its his choice but if he sees you getting better through example maybe he will want that wish yo well and maybe try ameeting