Definitely a hard one
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Maybe some boundaries are needed? You say your girl is doing a lot for them and is nice to them - why not be on her side a bit more and lay down some ground rules on behaviour and also you do some disciplining? Not her. But it’s her house too and she deserves respect and privacy.
Then obvs when noones misbehaving, do nice things together.
Ask your kids what’s going on w them. How they feel about you and the times when they come over. I could imagine they’re just overwrought from not being able to see you recently and are now vying for your attention. If you can correct the way they clamour for your attention AND give them what they want, but on adult terms, bingo: no one needs to move out and your gf is out the line of fire. My theory.
Best of luck.
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