Grumpy A-holes (quitting cigarettes/ nicotine products) (Part 1)

What helped me the most is regular chewing gum. Chewing it, a lot, a lot of pieces at a time. Gave me something to put in my mouth and gave me something to do with my mouth.

I had tried to quit with nicotine gum and that just made me want to smoke more. Same with the patches. I couldn’t/wouldn’t/didn’t follow the directions, because I wanted to smoke more than quit.

I realize that there are going to be some physical withdrawals. I also know that you are not going to writhe on the floor in agony.

You have come against bigger burdens, challenges.

It is the junkie talking to say that this is the most super hard, most difficult thing anyone has ever done in their life.

I am oriented towards medical science.

I still think that this is mostly mental. You have to overcome it mentally.

The craves will come, let them wash over you, and let them go.

They are not going to hurt you. They don’t have to be this big sign up in the air saying “it’s time to smoke it’s time to smoke, it’s time to smoke.”

Think, this go round, “It’s time to not smoke”.
It is time to NOT SMOKE.

Since your outdoor smoking chair is your only place you have to escape to I hope that you can change it up in some nice way where it’s not triggering.

I am on a small mobile device and I cannot go back and read up there to what you said about your seating area.

Maybe reposition it if you’re able to or something simple where it’s not so much the same.

I’m proud of you you’re doing a good job.

Say NO to smoking.

Embrace yourself the non-smoker.
Be done with that in your life.

Nice photo @Mno

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You wrote this while I was writing. That all sounds good. I’m super proud of you. You can do it. You are doing it.

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Congratulations @SassyBoomer !
One second, one minute, two minutes, five minutes, one quarter hour, one hour, and every crave, you can do this. Let the craves wash over you. They will go away.
I have never met anyone who wished they still smoked. You will be grateful when you have quit.

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Love this! Don’t remember seeing this one before. Thanks!

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Woohooo! Now you know you can go a day without smoking. So you know you can do it again :sparkling_heart:

Not only great advice, I also love the photo. Hippie van on the right, guy camping by the stream on the left. I’d love to be in either place.

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Guadalupe River in the Texas Hill Country when I was there in October 2019. First sober holidays. Feels like home. I haven’t been there since, due to Covid and other circumstances. But I will.

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Okay, I’ve been using a toothpick all morning and it’s definitely helping! Glad I saw this!

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Farking voices in my head farking arguing with me.

No one is home right now. No one will know.

I’LL KNOW.

One little puff just to take the edge off.

NO IT WON’T. IT WILL MAKE IT WORSE.

Whispers and mental nudges pushing hard.

NOT TODAY, SATAN!

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This made me smile. Keep up the good work!! :clap:t3::clap:t3::muscle:t3:

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I made it through yesterday by the skin of my teeth and pure will power. It is amazing how much of my time was spent smoking. It’s heartbreaking how many unthought of actions I make are preludes to smoking. I get up off my bed and my hand flutters along the blanket reaching for cigs that aren’t there. I’m watching tv and I start to get up to go outside for a smoke. It’s crazy how many times in the day I felt my body automatically prepare to get up.

I fought my mind all day long. Frankly it was exhausting. But I won!! I laid my head down for the night with no smoke. Hard won victory but well won.

Halfway through day three. I’m experienced enough to know it’s not going to be easier yet but I’m still willing to battle it out.

Stay blessed :heart:

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@SassyBoomer so hows it been today for you? Every second is a milestone. It makes you realise how much time we did spend smoking. Not just smoking but also making sure we didn’t run out. I’m grateful I dont have to get up on a morning and go to the 24hr garage to restock every morning. What an existence that was.


I changed all my themes and colours after my meltdown yesterday. Just look at the money that hasn’t been spent on cigarettes. Sending you positive vibes.:rainbow::+1::full_moon_with_face:

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Bleh, I’m allowing myself to feel.

I was thinking about that earlier. A pack a day. A smoke lasted about 10 minutes or so from the time I sat down until I stubbed out the butt. That means at least 3 1/2 hours of my life each and every day was dedicated to slowly killing myself. Unbelievable.

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Another repost for you (and you all off course). This one by Gummer, a person who had some great things to say on the old Quitnet.

These reposts all say essentially the same thing… Smoking is the cause of your distress so don’t ever be fooled into smoking again to feel better - it cannot ever work! Smoking has done a major job on you. It will take time and effort to straighten things out again, so be patient. You need to allow yourself the time required for your body and mind to return to normal. So hang in there! It doesn’t matter what it takes, just hang in there and you will get through this. It’s gonna happen. Cravings ARE going to hit you out of the blue. Thats the way quitting goes. It may happen at day 5, or day 27, or day 152… cravings CAN and DO come out of thin air.

But never let them surprise you. EXPECT them, and when they do arise, treat them just as you have all the others… SIMPLY DON’T SMOKE. Ride them out… recognize them as a natural part of the process… as a sign of healing and progress… until they go away In time they will stop bothering you at all. But until you reach that point, do not be discouraged if you`re suddenly slammed by a craving.

THAT’S WHAT SMOKING HAS DONE TO YOU. And that’s what you have to go through until you free yourself. Never be fooled into smoking again… because it was smoking that got you here in the first place. NOT smoking is the only answer. Be patient. Be steadfast. Be optimistic. Don’t smoke.

Smoking always, always makes quitting harder… and not smoking always makes it easier. Cravings… are a sign that your quit is working. They are a symptom that your body and mind are trying to find equilibrium again. Never be alarmed or discouraged because cravings hit you all of a sudden… that is what is supposed to happen as you ‘detox’, and start shedding the addiction. It is clear evidence of progress, whether it is day 1 or day 157.

I frequently see posts desperately looking for advice for something to get rid of these withdrawals… drink huge amounts of water… take extra vitamins… try homeopathic remedies… but the truth is that IF you shift your mind, then you do not need anything. Stop thinking of withdrawals as a desperate need to smoke, and instead start to see them as cleansing moments that, while uncomfortable, are very effective at healing. Shift your focus, and your attitude, and the way you interpret things.

After all, that`s what is going on… your body is simply convulsing against the poison you have forced upon it. Withdrawals and cravings do not have to be a sign of trouble, because they are really a sign of progress. See them that way and you will endure them with far greater ease than if you try to fight them, or fret over them…

The breakthrough comes… not when you stop craving, but when you stop seeing smoking as a solution to the cravings. It happens when you come to the conclusion that smoking (rather than NOT smoking) is the source of your misery. At that point you will start to see the withdrawals quite differently… no longer as a desperate need to be filled… but as a side effect of smoking, as damage to you caused by years of smoking.

Because this yearning to smoke is no different from other effects of smoking… it is damage, plain and simple, just like shortness of breath, or poor circulation, or gum disease. And, as with all smoking damage, the only hope you have of ever reversing it is by NOT smoking. So when you feel that craving to smoke, try to see it for the damage that it is, rather than any deprivation of your needs. That urge to smoke does not necessarily mean that YOU want to smoke. It is not a natural and voluntary reaction… it is involuntary and a by-product of the addiction. It is an effect, a symptom. It does not need to be satisfied.

Once you see this, quitting no longer feels like burden… not smoking will actually feel like therapy, like you finally ARE doing something to counteract this burden, like you are in control again… And that shift of perspective is a huge breakthrough that can finally turn the tables in your favor.

Gummer

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@Mno can I have my NOPE geese back? I know you didn’t take them off me but I didn’t feel like I deserved them after I relapsed. But now I feel like I do :duck:

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For you & enough to go around for all of us!

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Busy day in Austria, approaching 12 days with no cigarettes. Past few days I used a nicotine puffer 2 to 4 times. Today 0 :blush:. Feeling good. Came across a pic of mine some three years ago :see_no_evil:, what a mess I was……not going back there. Alcohol now 607 days. PMO is going way better limited (feels like it is loosing it’s power over me as well).

:pray:

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