Havent been drinking since 21. january, but

So. I havent been drinking since 21. january (this year). The thing is. I feel kinda sad, and i have no idea why. Nothing has happened, no bad news or anything. Everything is as it should be, or better. I just dont know why. I dont really feel like drinking, which is a good thing. But why am i feeling “sad”. I should be damn happy.

Has anyone experienced this in the beginning?

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Hey there! What ur going thru is absolutely normal. I went thru a phase in early recovery too, where my emotions were like a roller coaster. For example: Id be crying at commercials one second, and then laughing the next. I was even sad like what ur describing now. I think too (for me anyway), i was grieving in a sense. Even tho I shouldve been happy that I was clean and sober, I was also letting go of something that for the longest time I considered a “best friend”. Its normal to start feeling emotions now that ur sober. Weve numbed our emotions for a long time, and so they are going to start showing themselves again :slight_smile: Its a good thing! Ur absolutely in the right place.

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I was a shit show of emotions the first year, and somewhat beyond for sure.

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Detaching from alcohol is a sad painful process. It’s like losing a longtime good friend that you think has always been there and got you through hard times. It’s a lonely journey but this ‘friend’ only temporarily masked your problems instead of dealing with them head on. Ride it out and get as much support from here as you can. One day at a time.. we got you.

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I think grief is absolutely common when sober as an alcoholic . Alcohol was something I leaned on (or thought I could). It was always there for me after a stressful day or during high emotional times. But it wasn’t really there for me, it was destroying me. Sometimes I feel sad that I can’t handle a drink or two like everyone else. I think these feelings are absolutely valid

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Completely normal phase too feel weird and strong emotions in early sobriety

I delt with opiphonies, childhood feelings and vibes, and confusion along with with withdrawal

I felt weird walking lol

My body was like wtf is going on lol

Looking back
Because of the terrible withdrawal
Just the one terrible thing is enough to keep me away

I feel better now and pass on it with a simple no thank you

Sometimes i say “perhaps” when people ask if they could have a drink with me in the future
I say it to keep everyone cool and the subject on their topic and not about my sobriety at that moment

I know for certain i like sobriety more now
And i know for certain its good
So why sacrifice that for a celebration

Alcohol
Accepted by society
Dangerous if abused
Fool me once shame on you Fool me twice shame on me

I was fooled a lot by alcohol many times in a dangerous form a lot of the time even
Why would i accept that in my life with my wife and baby boy
I dont want to

Alcohol
Accepted socially
But
I just dont like it. :slight_smile:

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@TheAlcoholis welcome to the best recovery app in the universe :grin:

As every one has said it’s perfectly normal to feel strong emotions in the early days, especially sadness or mourning for the loss of your best friend :thinking: not.

Most of the time we used our doc to suppress these emotions, and getting them back in spades :spade_suit: takes some time to get used to, but we do adjust and trust me it gets easier the longer you’re sober.

Take care and don’t pick up, just for today.
:innocent:&:smiling_face_with_horns:

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Beginning middle and end for me… mental health is a part of my story and it is a daily struggle. Hope this clears up for you might need to talk to someone about it though that’s okay too if that’s what you end up having to do it’s better than drinking IMO

You’re not alone tho for what it’s worth