Iām currently 1 year 5 months sober. (Weed)
One of our dogs passed away very suddenly yesterday, Iām struggling really hard.
I donāt really know what to do or say. Iāve been debating for awhile about even posting on here. Any advice or anything helps. 
Thanks in advance for listening.
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Iām sorry for your lossā¦
I used to cope everything with weed until a few years ago. After my wife dumped me two years ago Iāve tried to smoke again, it made it so so so much worse. THC wonāt help you, on the contrary, it may bring vivid images, even more sorrow, pain, and only delay the āfacing the terrible truthā thing.
My thoughts are with you.
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Our pets are our family. Iām very sorry for your loss. Please stay sober as it will help you with nothing. The grieve is hard to deal with but dealing with it is what we need to do. One day at a time. I smoked my life away for decades. Got me absolutely nowhere. Iām glad youāre here with us. Youāre not alone. Wishing you much strength in dealing with your loss.
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Iām so sorry you went through that.
You are 100% right. I really appreciate you, your advice. It would definitly make things worse, send me into a full panick attack.
Thank you.
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So sorry youāve lost your dog. I know the pain well. I have to tell you that being sober through the grief of losing my buddy last year helped me get through it. I can say Iām grateful today that I didnāt dull my feelings and gave him the honor of fully feeling my grief when he passed. You can do it, too, and I think youāll be glad you did it sober.
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Thank you so much. 
Iām honestly speechless.
You are right. You all are.
I smoked for 7 years, every day.
I think I just needed to hear it from some amazing strangers to stay strong. Thank you!
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Iām so sorry youāve experienced this pain as well. Thatās amazing advice. Staying sober for her. 
Thank you love.
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Itās really hard to say goodbye to a furry friend/family member. They are there with unconditional love, a constant fixture in our lives and hearts. Some are there to greet us when we walk in the door or the moment we get out of bed. Some inspire us to get out of the house with themāif only because we donāt want them to use the floor as a bathroom. And some are there to give us the animal equivalents to hugs and allowing us to be just as free flowing with love and care.
There is nothing I can say that will make the pain go away. Only time will soften the hurt and sadness. You will feel your dogās absence all around you for a while. Eventually it might move into the bitter sweet catigory, where youāre able to think fondly about the times you had together without being overwhelmed by grief. But that time is not now.
Right now, let yourself cry. Let yourself grief. Order hard copies of your favorite pictures of your dog and put them in a couple of frames if it helps. Youāre actually lucky to be clean. The drugs donāt let us fully process our emotions, which can sometimes drag out the grieving process or never allow us to fully heal during the most productive time.
I hope youāre able to find some peace during this time of parting from your loved one.
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You are incredibly well spoken. I appreciate you more than you know. Iāve lost one while high, you are 1000% correct. I will continuously keep re reading your wonderful words. Iām also very greatful that your wonderful words broke my walls down to cry. Iāve been trying to be strong for my husband, he struggles a bit with showing his emotion due to always feeling like he has to be the rock in bad situations.
I was trying to be strong for him.
I truly canāt thank you enough for taking the time to give me that amazing advice.
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I send you big hugs, it is sad to lose a pet, they are family. Your dog had a good life with you, he was loved and cared. Grief will take time, take it one day at a time. The lovely memories will stay. He is now a guarding angel on the other side of the rainbow bridge. Honor him, stay sober 
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Thank you so much! Iām definitely going to do my absolute best to stay strong to honor her. She was the sweetest, most loving pup ever. I just know sheās with her older brother up there playing. As everyone doesā¦ I just wished we had more time together. It was so unexpected. 