Hello i am 4 days sober, struggling

[Clairelilly82]

I am 4 days sober. Been to 2 meeting which i found amazing. Went home and feel so alone. I don’t have any support i have no family 1 drinking friend and my husband a non drinker does everything he can to avoid me. I feel so alone

[Mb220]

I’m 20 days in. I drink coffee after work instead of beer. The first week sucks. But waking up every morning is so much easier. Hang in there.

[SinceIAwoke]

Welcome to sobriety and to Talking Sober, @Clairelilly82 and @Mb220!

Claire, I found so much hope and sympathy at AA early on. And those were two of the last qualities I would have listed about my life at that time. If you can reach out just a little at the meetings, I’m sure you’ll make contacts, and maybe friends, who will help to feel less alone.

Mike, you are right - waking up sober and dealing with life beats coming to with a hangover and struggling for that next drink every single day of the week.

Here’s some great threads for you to peruse!

Advice for the Newcomer and Constant Relapser

Sobriety and recovery is a process of walking away from the old days of drinking/using that don’t work anymore. It’s embracing uncomfortable change for the better and deciding to not stay where you were. It’s learning to love yourself enough to say “I can’t live like this anymore and I need help”. Please add here the advice that you would like to gives to others. What tips and tricks has worked for your sobriety? What can someone newly sober expect on this journey? [image]

2 years sober and what helped me to get there:

2 days ago I celebrated my 2 years sober again. Again, because years ago I had a long stretch of sober days too but relapsed after 5 years. My doc is alcohol. I started to drink when I was 16 year or so and it increased in my student days. I noticed I had a problem around the aged of 30 I guess. Tried to quit multiple times but couldn’t get more then 30 days sober Decided to give myself an ultimatum: 1 year. 1 year to get sober myself otherwise I would go to see my doctor and ask fo…

Resources for our recovery

There are so many helpful resources available to us on our sober journeys. I wanted to share this list for those who are interested in non traditional resources. Please note: I (@SassyRocks) created this with alcohol recovery in mind and it is U.S. based as well. As a straight white past middle age woman, it is based on what resonated and helped me in my journey. Over time, I have added in resources for some other addictions (found at the end of this post), but it is heavy with resources for al…

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Hang out with us when you feel alone. 🫶🏻

[SolarEclipse]

Welcome Claire. So glad you chose us to hang with. When I first got here( about 2 weeks ago) one of the first things I read on here was…
“Glad you reached out to this place, there’s so much love and support here it’s literally a family in your pocket!” Jwfletcher4792

I had no family at that point, so I stayed on this site a lot. There are some amazing people here!!!

[Mira_D]

Hang in there. If you really enjoyed those meetings, keep going and you will find over time you will meet people. Many go for coffee and such after the meetings, and you will meet some new friends.

When you are feeling lonely pull us out of your pocket. We are always here. Sending you so much strength, love and hugs right now. The early days are not easy, but it will get easier along the way. We’re ALWAYS here xo.

[TeamofSix]

Hang in there, I’m coming up on 3 days, it’s rough, keep the goal in mind!

[Ray_M_C_Laren]

Thats were its important to get phone numbers so you can phone people when you are feeling lonely and meet up for coffee ,at the next meeting get some wish you well.

[Mira_D]

I did this a lot also and I would highly recommend this too.